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Thought for a Sunday - 27 May 2012

2012-05-27T15:14:54Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well and your week was productive.   Welcome to the unofficial start of summer with the arrival of Memorial Day.   As I look out my window this morning I can advise that it is already quite warm and will be warmer by the end of the day. So far clear skies, but I hear thunderstorms are in the future.   It will be a very long day for those participating in Rolling Thunder.

What I week I had.   I went to Chicago for the first time and what a great city. It's quite walkable which I did lots of while there. The food was wonderful and for a big city many of the prices seemed much more reasonable that other cities.   Believe it or not on Monday I walked over 23,000 steps - yes I won't bore you with how SORE I was on Tuesday. I was relieved to know that the folks I was with (between 15 and 30 years younger) were just as sore on Tuesday (LOL)!   I kept up on Monday although at one point I said, I think once we have dinner I may have to take a taxi back to the hotel. Yet, after taking that dinner break I was able to keep going and then we took the subway back to the hotel (saved me about $40.00). There was only one escalator involved in the whole day.   Tuesday I walked over 11,000 steps as there was no way I (or my companions) could put in another 23k day.   We saw a lot of police, some streets were blocked off and saw some motorcades, but overall very peaceful. The police recommended some of the best restaurants we tried.   We found Garrett's popcorn on our own and OMG the Chicago Mix was the best I had ever eaten. That was my treat to the office this past week.   It was not too expensive in person as you can buy it by the bag. You should have seen four of us walking down the street with our bags of popcorn - it was too funny with cheese on our fingers and faces.

We ventured to the top of the Willis (formerly Sears) Tower to check out the SkyDeck view. WOW is it amazing and luckily we had a gorgeous early evening to check it all out. I even ignored my fear of heights and stood in the glass deck to look down and out.   It was freaky I will admit, but not as bad as I expected. Of course, the worst part is all the people and feeling a little crowded so you know I did not stand on it too long.

I attended a course on metrics and as some of you know, it's not my strength.   The course was excellent and I got to meet folks from across the business world that are struggling with the same things I am from an HR perspective.   The instructor was fabulous and really geared the class so we would be able to apply the knowledge as soon as we returned to the office.   I felt like I really learned something and had some additional ideas for ways to pull it all together at the office.   Have you ever been able to apply learning to another part of life?

My other business is very busy at the moment. Lots of referrals which is great, but I actually turned down my first client this year. I just could not take on another and feel comfortable that I could supply good customer service.   It was hard for me to turn someone down as I hardly ever say no, but in good conscience I could not take on another. Luckily, I took the time to listen to my inner voice and get some insight into what I could handle at the moment. Some of you may be snickering at the moment, yet I feel like I weighed the pros/cons and made the right decision. Of course, I realized it was easier since I did not know the person and had not met them personally, so no connection made.   Do you know your limits and when to say no? How do you handle it?

I'm doing a little purging of my books and other clutter. Only a little, but I will get it done slowly, but surely.   Sometimes I think I like clutter and other times it drives me crazy. What about you? Is there an area that needs a little purging?

Well, I better be going here as I'm meeting someone in a little while.   It will be a slow afternoon filled with laundry and relaxing.   Hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar events: 27 May - Sunscreen Protection Day
                             28 May - Memorial Day
                             01 June - Donut Day
                             02 June - National Rocky Road Day

All quotes today are from: Dr. Wayne W. Dyer from Everyday Wisdom.

"YOU CREATE YOUR THOUGHTS, YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR INTENTIONS, AND YOUR INTENTIONS CREATE YOUR REALITY."

"BY CONCENTRATING ON YOUR BREATHING, BY MEDITATING, AND BY AFFIRMING ALOUD YOUR INTENTIONS, YOU CAN RE-ENERGIZE YOURSELF ON YOUR LIFE'S JOURNEY."

"A TREE ALLOWS THE LIFE FORCE TO WORK NATURALLY THROUGH IT. YOU HAVE THE POWER WITHIN YOUR THOUGHTS TO BE AS NATURAL AS THE TREE."

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Thought for a Sunday - 20 May 2012

2012-05-20T15:25:37Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well.   I'm looking out my window this morning at an absolutely gorgeous day so far. The sky is completely clear and there is a breeze which is coming in. I hope where you are the weather is just as gorgeous.

How was your week? My week was a mixture of meetings, learning, accomplishments and frustrations. I guess that makes it a pretty good week. I did feel like I was caught in the middle of a tug of war at one point trying to decide where I should be and what I should be doing.   Of course, it all comes together or gets settled at the end of the day. I am lucky enough to be involved in many projects - some I'm scaling back on and others just beginning - that I must admit its hard to pick and choose which ones take precedent as I find them all important for the changes that need to happen. I'll get through it one step at a time and by taking care of myself - acupuncture, chiropractor, walking almost every day, etc.

Well, I turned 54 yesterday and spent some time with some awesome women. Started out the day working out with some great people. Arrived home to find a friend had already swung by with flowers. Then I ended the day with pedicures and dinner at a wonderful Thai restaurant with some five fabulous friends.   It was a wonderful end to a great day.   The funniest part of the day was on the way home when a friend said: you are 365 days away from retirement!!! We all laughed and I thought - wow that brings it home. It means I'm eligible to retire but it does not mean I will. I think I'll keep everyone guessing - its not that I'm not thinking about it, but in a very dream like state.

I told my best friend I might write about this and I guess I will.    Do young people really consider the impact of what they post on social media?   Perhaps I'm just old fashioned, but some of the pics that get posted can be completely misconstrued.   I realize young people are not paying attention to what it can mean for them. This is only coming up because of a gorgeous picture that was posted by someone that I care for. The picture is absolutely model worthy and should be used for a model portfolio, but seeing it immediately brought out the protector in me. I thought what has she gotten herself into? Does she realize that schools and companies are now trolling the internet looking to learn about you? Does she realize that there are perverts out there that troll the internet looking for people to abuse?   She is an adult and all I could think of about is how naive is she being? Did she fall into a scheme? I'm telling you my mind went into overtime!!! I did chat online with her this morning and got the whole story and told her what I was thinking. We had a laugh, but it does not mean I'm happy yet. What do you think about social media? Do you think I was wrong to be concerned and speak up about it?

I'm off to Chicago for a few days this afternoon.    Taking some training on skills needed for my new job. I learning a skill I am not that interested in, but I truly understand the importance of the skill. I'm all about learning and hopefully I will be able to squeeze in a little time to check out the city.

I finished reading a book this week titled: Swimming Lessons by Penelope Niven.   It's about Life Lessons from the Pool from Diving In to Treading Water.    It's truly a book about learning to live. The author wove the different strokes of swimming into life lessons that almost any one can connect with.   It's less than 200 pages and chock full of good information.   I'm hoping to at least read one book during my travels this week. Read any good books lately?

I better get moving here as I have to finish packing. I hope you have a fabulous week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar for the week: 22 May - National Maritime Day
                                      23 May - Lucky Penny Day

"IN OVERCOMING FEAR AN SHARING OUR STORIES WITH OTHERS, WE FIND THE TRUTH ABOUT WHO WE REALLY ARE - AND DISCOVER WE ARE NOT ALONE." Author Unknown

"CREATIVE MINDS HAVE ALWAYS BEEN KNOWN TO SURVIVE ANY KIND OF BAD TRAINING." Anna Freud

"SELF-ESTEEM ISN'T EVERYTHING; IT'S JUST THAT THERE'S NOTHING WITHOUT IT." Gloria Steinham

REFERRALS ARE ALWAYS APPRECIATED!!

Thought for a Sunday - 13 May 2012

2012-05-13T15:59:21Z

Hi Everyone! Happy Mother's Day to those that are luckily enough to be mothers. I called my mom this morning for a quick chat. My parents will go to my sister's house today for dinner and family time.   I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the weather is good for them to be outside and enjoy a BBQ.

I hope you had a good week. I did as I got in a walk every day of at least 30 minutes. I am really enjoying the opportunity to walk and talk with a trusted colleague. I am proud of myself when I am willing to go on my own when she is not available. Yet I find the walk and talk gives us both an opportunity to talk about the trials and tribulations of our work and productively try out ideas for resolution. I also realized that when I'm walking and talking I'm not always concerned about how far or how long we walk.   I hope you have someone in your life that you can walk and talk with when needed.

There are days at work when my head spins - there is so much going on and many changes that will be happening over the next year that sometimes it's hard to absorb and make happen. I'm torn between trying to get there and trying to bring a staff along that will take advantage of team work and provide better customer service.   I don't think the staff will remain the same over the long haul, yet until there are some other things in place it is definitely hard to move forward quickly.   I'm trying to take one day at a time and keep the stress level down with laughter.    How do you handle changes? Any tips?

I was thinking about how people handle emotion upheavals and trying to come up with some ideas when I came across the following which resonated with me:
Pay
Attention
Inward
Now
This is from Ivanya Vanzant during a discussion with Oprah.   I thought what a great way to acknowledge and then refocus internal or emotional pain. When we actually pay attention we can usually figure out a way to deal with the issue or a way to take care of ourselves.

I finished reading "Breakfast with Fred" by Fred Smith, Sr. It's a book about breakfast meetings with a well-know Christian leader. He infuses Scripture into his teachings as he worked with leaders of business throughout the world.   It's not a thick book and it took me longer to read than some other books, yet it was very good.

I saw a news story the other night about "Got your Six" a campaign this is taking up veterans issues. Lots of wonderful information about the veterans and good opportunities for assisting returnees:    http://www.gotyour6.org/

Calendar for the Week: 13 May - Mothers Day
                                       14 May - Love a Tree Day
                                       18 May - Visit Your Relatives Day
                                       19 May - Armed Forces Day

I hope you have a great week.   Take time to enjoy a few minutes of every day. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

All quotes today are from the book above by FRED SMITH, SR.

"LOW TIMES GIVE US TIME TO SLOW DOWN FOR THE NEXT CLIMB."

"IT IS NOT THE NUMBER OF TASKS, BUT THE NET ENERGY REQUIRED THAT DETERMINES THE POINT OF OVERLOAD.

"LIFE IS A NETWORK OF DECISIONS.

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Thought for a Sunday - 6 May 2012

2012-05-06T16:39:41Z

Hi Everyone from Bethany Beach. I'm here with a few of the Bunco Babes enjoying a peaceful weekend. I just can't feel stressed at the beach. I'm looking out the window today at trees swaying in a chilly breeze. The sun is out which it was not yesterday.   Walked about two miles on the beach each morning. Yesterday it was so foggy you could not see anything except the shoreline directly beside you.    We were quite wet when done, but invigorated.   I'm feeling well balanced today!!

I think as I get older I am turning more and more into my mother (LOL)!! My mother was not a traveler but whenever my dad and she went away she would run into someone she knew from somewhere.   Well, apparently I can do that as well.   Yesterday morning we were standing at the end of the boardwalk catching our breath (looking pretty wet and I had a baseball cap on) and reading some historical markers. As you may know whenever you pass someone on the beach they say hello or good morning. Well, we had passed two women already and as they approached the end, my said are you women from here and one woman looked at me and said I know you.   That's when I really looked her in the face and said - I do know you, we worked together and I used to work with your husband. We both started laughing and caught up for a few minutes. My friend says to me after you know everyone! Not really I said it just seems that way. I thought it was just a fluke, but when I thought about it - it has happened before and I think with this same friend. Has this happened to you? I think about how small the world is.

Overall it has been a great relaxing weekend. We did not do hardly anything yesterday as it was cold, damp and dreary all day. We went out for lunch and then came back here to vegetate. No one really wanted to shop to so I got to catch up on some reading materials (magazines) and the local papers.   Then we watched a marathon of Undercover Boss on TLC.   We did run out about 9:00 for dessert - well when you are in a beach town before the season there is not much open. We went to TCBY as they were closing, but told us to come in. They were so nice to do that when they could have said closed as the place next door did.   Because they told us to come in that brought in about 10 more customers before they could complete our order. They served each person with a smile and I thought she made a few more dollars which is a good thing.   That's good customer service. I definitely have to put something in Yelp about them.    What about you? Did you fit in some relaxation time? The recipient of great customer service?

We did get to a little shopping this morning after a fabulous breakfast of crepes. When we finished walking this morning we were wondering where some of the stores are and saw this little crepe place. The owners were just entering and said they opened at 8:00. We ran back to the house to pick up our other friend and went right back for a fabulous breakfast. (Another place to mention in Yelp!) Of course by the time we finished talking the stores around the restaurant opened and we just had to help the local economy.   We even did a little peaking into windows of a house for sale.

We did not get any view of the "super" moon. Clouds were much too heavy!! I'm hoping you got to see it as I'm looking at some of the pictures online and WOW!!   Let me know if you heard anyone howling at the full moon (LOL)!!

Life is good at the beach. I don't have much more to say today as we have to get started packing up to head back to the real world.   I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

From Whole Living Magazine: May 2012

Ten Thoughts

1. TIME FOR AN ENERGY AUDIT - YOU OWN. SLOWING DOWN COULD BE JUST THE BOOS YOU NEED.
2. WANT TO A WITNESS A SMALL MIRACLE? PLAN A SEED.
3. WORKING WITH YOUR HANDS, EVEN FOR A FEW MINUTES, SEEMS TO CLEAR THE MIND.
4. LISTEN UP!! YOUR INNER VOICE WOULD LOVE TO BE HEARD.
5. EGGS ARE A LOT LIKE LIFE: RICH IN POSSIBILITIES AND FULL OF SURPRISES.
6. HIKING MOUNTAINS: FAR MORE ENJOYABLE THAN TRYING TO MOVE THEM.
7. EVER NOTICE THAT THE THINGS WE WORRY ABOUT MOST IN LIFE TEND TO BE THE ONE THAT NEVER HAPPEN?
8. CLEARING CLUTTER IS AS GOOD FOR THE SOUL AS IT IS FOR THE LIVING ROOM.
9. TEACHABLE MOMENTS ARE NOT JUST FOR KIDS.
10. TAKE A LESSON FROM YOUR HAIR: WHEN A SITUATION CAN'T BE CONTROLLED, TRY A LOOSER APPROACH.

Thought for a Sunday - 29 April 2012

2012-04-29T15:28:35Z

Hi Everyone.   Hope you are well today. What a beautiful day out my window this morning!!! The sky is blue with wispy clouds and a slight breeze. It was a good week - busy and somewhat productive.

I started my day this morning waking up to daylight; thinking about the day in general and when I turned on Oprah's channel she was discussing Gratitude on one show and Forgiveness on another.     My take away this morning was how she focused on being grateful for what you have and not even thinking about what you don't have. Most of us have a tendency to dwell on the things we don't have vice find the joy in what we have.    I usually take a moment in the morning and again before I go to sleep to express gratitude whether it be in a thought, prayer , murmur, or journal entry.    I hope you have a way of expressing gratitude.

Have I mentioned to you the TV show Touch (Fox network)?   I watch this show every week and it fascinates me. I have to pay attention or I may miss a connection. I find it wonderful how they show people connected in the universe across the world by something.   If you get a chance let me know what you think.

Here is my funny story for the week.   I am a person that never knowingly does something wrong and this past week I learned why.   I had to travel with a colleague to a different building.   We were originally only going to be there for 20 minutes max.   The parking lots are a mess and since it was Friday many of the marked parking spaces were empty. So I slid into a parking spot reserved for Third Trimester women.   Most were empty and I did not pay attention to the fact that the spaces were numbered which could mean something. So my colleague and I head into the building finish our original business and then ended up being in the building for over an hour as she determined she wanted to do a few more things. When I came out I saw a police car behind my car and I said to my colleague (much younger than myself and also slightly weight challenged), pretend your pregnant.   She had not seen the police car yet, but said ok.   As we got to my car I said to the police officer, is there something wrong? He said: Is this your car and do you have a permit to park here? I said no I did not realize I needed one as its been a long time since I have been to the building and I have not parked there previously.   He said not to be directly, but more to my colleague are one of you pregnant. She said yes and she thought it would be ok for the few minutes. He looked at us and said ok and proceeded to give us the lecture about needing a permit to park in any of these types of parking spaces. I swear when I worked in that building previously no one needed a permit.   He said I'm giving you a warning (because she's pregnant) otherwise it would be a full blown $150.00 ticket.    He showed me where the sign said permit (small pink lettering which neither of us had seen). All I could think of was phew - boy did I just get away with something and I hope I was not in someone's parking space.   My colleague and I had a few laughs as we drove away, but honestly it did not feel that great. I knew I should not have parked there, but I was being lazy.   I guess you know that I won't be deliberating doing that again.   Have you done something and then thought why did I do that?

This past week I finished reading: Jack Welch Speaks by Janet Lowe. It is compiled of stories and quotes from Mr. Welch as the world's greatest business leader as head of GE. The book is very interesting as it is broken out in leadership lessons.

I had a wonderful evening out last week with two friends. We have not seen each other socially in a while and it was a fun evening of story telling over good Persian food. Catching up with people is what I love to do.   I went to a very good weight loss meeting the other night. I was not sure how it would go, but the members that came were very talkative and helpful as we continue on our journey.   I even got some new websites to check out as most of us go to Sparkpeople.com, the participants provided some I have never heard of before. Always good to have more options.

All else is well in my world. I was able to conduct some coaching sessions this past week and I always feel so alive when I'm in those moments.   I hope you have opportunities to feel alive this coming week.   Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar of events: 29 April - Zipper Day
                                 20 April - National Honesty Day
                                   5 May - Cinco de Mayo
                                   5 May - Run for the Roses or the Kentucky Derby

"THE GOLDEN MOMENTS IN THE STREAM OF LIFE RUSH PAST US AND WE SEE NOTHING BUT SAND; THE ANGELS COME TO VISIT US, AND WE ONLY KNOW THEM WHEN THEY ARE GONE." George Eliot

"OUT BEYOND IDEAS OF WRONGDOING AND RIGHTDOING, THERE IS A FIELD. I'LL MEET YOU THERE." Rumi, Sufi poet

"MUCH OF THE SUCCESS OF LIFE DEPENDS UPON KEEPING ONE'S MIND OPEN TO OPPORTUNITY AND SEIZING IT WHEN IT COMES." Alice Foote MacDougall

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Thought of a Sunday - 22 April 2012

2012-04-22T16:09:31Z

Hi Everyone.   Hope this finds you well and you had some good experiences this past week.   It's Earth Day today and I realize that has lots of people thinking about "being green." Target this morning was giving away small reusable bags with sample size items included. I noticed a couple of ads in the past few days that indicated free bags with purchase.   I usually have to remember to grab them on the way to the store so now I try to leave a couple in the car - just in case!!

Out my window this morning its heavy clouds and rain off and on. We definitely need some rain in this area as we are almost six inches below our normal and it's helping wash some of the pollen away. Everyone I know has been suffering with allergies because of spring and the dryness. Also, for me when its weather like this I can sometimes take a step back and just be instead of running around. What about you? Are you affected by the weather?

Finished a really good book this week titled: The Widow Spy by Martha D. Peterson. It's an interesting true story of a woman who spent doing something that most of us will never experience. Her story is highlighted at the International Spy Museum in DC. I purchased the book a few weeks ago after a tour of the museum.   She has a website as well.   What have you read lately?

I was able to increase my walking this past week and found that even when my friend could not do it, I did it myself. I'm thinking that's a good sign.   The only day we did not walk was in the rain.   I am so enjoying the time away from the office and clearing the head.   We may walk for about 1/2 hour and yet the feeling lasts so much longer during the day.   For me, it is definitely better walking with someone rather than alone. I mentioned this to someone yesterday and she told me a story about the rainy day and seeing someone complete their run in the parking garage - they were sort of outside, but staying out of the elements. What a good idea.

We are adding a closet in the room I use as an office/craft room/guest room. It can't be called a bedroom without a closet.   This also means the room is a little chaotic. Lots and lots of books, CDs, etc.   Guess it's time to give away some books. Have you ever noticed how hard it is to give away stuff. I try to use some of my books as reference materials and give them away to people that might want to borrow them, but I think it's time to let go of the books that have been sitting on the shelves for many years without me opening them. Of course, except for the books I've been saving to read when I retire (LOL)!!! How about you? Are you spring cleaning a little?

I had a couple of good social events this past week. A coaching seminar/dinner, an evening with the bunco babes and a jewelry party. Lots of people events so yesterday it was nice to spend much of the day without a lot of people around.   Just needed a bit of down time to replenish.

I had some people ask me what coaching is and what does it do. I found an ICF guide in my reference material and thought I would provide some of the information. Hope you find it helpful.

What is Coaching? Coaching is partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. (My comment: I call it life changing conversation or finding the AHA moment.)

What are the benefits of hiring a coach? Individuals who engage in a coaching relationship can expect to experience fresh perspectives on personal challenges and opportunities, enhance thinking and decisionmaking skills, improve interpersonal effectiveness and increase confidence in carrying out their chosen work and life roles. (My comment: Coaches ask the tough questions that you may not want to ask yourself.   Coaching may bring a different perspective to your story.)

How do you choose a coach? The most important thing to look for in selecting a coach is someone with whom you can feel you can easily relate to and create the most powerful partnership.   I have a list of questions that someone may want to consider when choosing a coach.   You can use the www.coachfederation.org website to find a credentialed coach or for more information.

I feel that lots of positive energy continues to be around me and the more I'm around it the more I like it.   I hope you have a way to tap into the positive energy around you.

I missed the last couple of weeks of calendar events so here they are:

8 April - Easter Sunday
9 April - Name Yourself Day
10 April - Encourage a Young Writer Day
12 April - Big Wind Day
14 April - Passover Ended
15 April - Income Tax Day
18 April - Pet Owner's Day
20 April - Look-Alike Day
22 April - Earth Day
26 April - Hug a Friend Day
27 April - Arbor Day and Tell a Story Day

I better get a move on here. I have work to do in my other business today. Suddenly my name is being referred so I need to see what my boundaries are for this year.

I hope you have a wonderful week. Try to carry yourself in a bit of positivity and notice how you feel.   Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"A MERRY HEART DOES GOOD LIKE A MEDICINE." Proverbs 17:22

"YOU CAN BREAK DOWN A WOMAN TEMPORARILY, BUT A REAL WOMAN WILL ALWAYS PICK UP THE PIECES, REBUILD HERSELF, AND COME BACK STRONGER THAN EVER." Unknown.

Thought for a Sunday - 15 April 2012

2012-04-15T19:20:23Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well on what is for most people a terrible day - TAX DAY!! I can say mine have been completed and submitted later than normal for me, but done.   I realize everyone has been given a bit of a reprieve with this being Sunday so I'm wondering how many people are out there rushing around trying to find receipts.   I realize I am a little late today as I went this morning to get a massage!!

I'm looking out my window at an overcast sort of day with current temperatures being 80 degrees.   We went from winter like morning this week to a humid summer day. Mother Nature I am beginning to believe just likes to mess with our minds.   Almost everyone I know is either sneezing or knows someone that is sneezing.   I don't think we have a drop of rain in sight to help us wash away some of the pollen.

I had a good week and much more in balance than the previous week. I heard from many people both via email or in person about my blog last week and then the addendum. I appreciate all of the comments and did not even realize some of the people that actually read my blog. I am extremely humbled when I hear from people.

I had a lot of positive energy this week around coaching as I am working with a few different people.   When I was preparing for acupuncture yesterday I actually felt like there were positive energy bubbles (not sure how else to explain it) around me.    Perhaps it's because I started walking and talking with a friend this past week or perhaps because I participated in two workout classes yesterday morning.   Yes, I said two and it's been a long time since I took two classes in a row.   Had breakfast after with a wonderful friend and we chatted for a long while. All positive things happening in one day.

Have you ever been frustrated by someone and not sure what to do about it?   I know I have been both at work and with family.   I have to think is it because they are not doing something the way I want them to? Or because I feel they are not listening?   Or is it because I think I know best?    Lots of thoughts go through my head when frustration steps in. I try to take a deep breath, but then sometimes I have to walk away? I'm only thinking about this because it happened this morning. Thank goodness I was on the phone and the person could not see how frustrated I truly was. They got the hint as I let them know I was really ticked.   I literally could feel myself turning inside out trying not to slam the phone down.   We ended the call on a good note, but I was still frustrated for a bit.   I was able to settle as I drove to my massage thank goodness although I never quite relaxed during the massage. I can sit now hours later and bring up the whole situation and feel myself getting tense. But I have to remember that I don't control the world or even those in it. I'm not perfect and I probably frustrate lots of people every day. How about you? What comes up for you?

I better get a move on here. Still have plenty of things to get done today as I gear up for the work week.   I'm thinking positively for the week ahead - even with meetings and deadlines. I wish the same for you.

Have a great week.   Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"IN THE MIDDLE OF DIFFICULTY LIES OPPORTUNITY." Albert Einstein

"TASTE THE JOY THAT SPRINGS FROM LABOR." Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

"WHAT LIES BEHIND US AND WHAT LIES BEFORE US ARE TINY MATTERS COMPARED TO WHAT LIES WITHIN US." Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Addendum to Thought for a Sunday - 8 April 2012

2012-04-11T00:29:41Z

Hi Everyone. I thought I would provide this addendum to my Sunday posting as I realized that I never explained how I came out of my funk last week. It is a humorous story that when i told it on Monday that I had not posted.

So although I had apologized for going from coaching to HR police and causing a colleague to not return to class; by Friday morning I was exhausted and still in a funk. As I was driving to work at o'dark thirty, my mind was definitely not focused on the drive. My mind was wandering into some other realm as I was stuck in my mood.

Suddenly, in the road ahead of me was a deer in the middle of the intersection. I was the only car on the road, but know I should not swerve. I stepped hard on the brakes, but not hard enough to leave skid marks. I literally stopped at the tail of the deer - who just stood still. I was wide eyed and shaking as the deer moved off.

My first thought was I think I just got a sign from above or as I said to someone I think I just had a "Sunday Come To Jesus" moment! Also in that moment I realized that it was time to move on from my funk and get on with living. Now it's not the way I would choose to move on normally, but it did the trick.

What do you think? What thoughts would have crossed your mind? Hopefully, I gave you a chuckle for the day!!

Chat soon. Take care. Marie

Thought for a Sunday - 8 April 2012

2012-04-08T20:31:43Z

Happy Easter! I hope this finds you well and enjoying the spring season.   I'm looking out the window this morning at bright sunshine, clear skies and the possibility of a gorgeous day.   I hope you had a great past week, I noticed in Northern Virginia that the majority of schools were on break so my office mates were happy that the traffic was lighter. It's amazing how just the idea of a bit lighter traffic changes the mood in the office.

I had an emotionally draining few days which left me very tired. I attended a coaching course at work which had a two-fold purpose. One was to learn the technique and the other part was train the trainer so I would be able to facilitate learning this in the future. I had a colossal failure that caused another student to become emotional and embarrassed and leave the class. She did not return for the rest of the days. At first I could not understand what I did incorrectly and then it dawned on me that I put my "HR" hat on so to speak as it is such a strong part of who I am. In my mind, when the coachee was revealing the story so many elements screamed "danger danger" manager!" In order to save the manager from having a bigger problem down the line I jumped in instead of keeping in coaching mode.   It was the first time I had such a colossal failure that was so impacting to someone else. I was devastated when I realized what I had done and worked with the trainers on different approaches and outcomes. It was a huge learning week. I was so upset about the pain I caused someone else that I wrote her a note to apologize which she accepted. Don't get me wrong, I learned a heck of a lot about coaching and how much I am always learning. The hardest part was admitting to myself and to the class that I failed and why. It was also a tremendous learning experience for the others in the class including the instructors who also admitted they had failed as well. It was a wondrous discussion that came out of the situation.

I tried to hide some of what I was going through (I used to be able to) when I went to dinner with friends the other night.   One friend just knew something was off, yet I was still processing and could not talk about it. Then we never had a chance to catch up. I'm sure she is reading this going....I knew something was wrong.

The rest of the week went much better as my young friend Brock came to visit. I had to work for part of his visit, but we got to Luray Caverns yesterday and the Spy Museum today. He has been occupied during his visit doing lots of fun stuff. He is turning into nice young man.   He asked me how I can always be happy and I just laughed after what I went through last week. I did explain that I'm not always happy but that I need to work at it just like everyone else.   It's an attitude and outlook and I want to be happy as much as possible.   We had an Easter Egg hunt this morning for Brock and he enjoyed himself. He goes home tomorrow and we will definitely miss him.

Had a fun day yesterday traveling to and from Luray Caverns - riding through the Shenandoah Mountains on a gorgeous day was so wonderful. Another friend came with us and we laughed most of the day. The hardest part was climbing the stairs at the end of the Cavern walk - LOL!!   We went to Luray one way and came back another which then had us showing Brock where he lived in Virginia many years ago. One side trip on the way back from Luray - found a great ice cream place - flavor of the day was coconut and it was definitely yummy!! For a change I ordered just a regular size cone and not my norm which would have been over the top.   I am slowly making changes to my lifestyle.

I was going to write about other stuff today, but everything above came out. I usually go with the flow in my blog so I am thinking there is a reason I put this all here.

I hope you have a good upcoming week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"TO BE KIND TO ALL, TO LIKE MANY AND LOVE A FEW, TO BE NEEDED AND WANTED BY THOSE WE LOVE, IS CERTAINLY THE NEAREST WE CAN COME TO HAPPINESS." Mary Roberts Rinehart

"YOU CAN DO ANYTHING IN THIS WORLD IF YOU ARE PREPARED TO TAKE THE CONSEQUENCES." W. Somerset Maugham

"MOST FOLKS ARE ABOUT AS HAPPY AS THEY MAKE UP THEIR MINDS TO BE." Abraham Lincoln

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Thought for a Sunday - 1 April 2012

2012-04-01T12:32:06Z

Hi Everyone. Happy April Fools Day! No worries I will not play any jokes on you.   As I look out the window this morning I am seeing a layers of clouds with the sun peaking through. I am watching the waves come in and have the window open to hear the waves. The only disturbance was listening to a yapping dog for a few minutes.   Yes I am at Myrtle Beach and staying at an ocean front resort instead of the condo near the golf course. I can honestly say this morning that there are lots of items rattling around in my head, but looking out at the ocean and many of them are not important.

What a GREAT way to start the morning!! I was sitting on the side of the bed looking out the space between the drapes for a while just breathing and watching the ebb and flow of the waves.   Lots of people out there running and walking this morning.   My best friend is sitting on the balcony watching the world go by. Yesterday we had showers off and on most of the day which was fine as we waited for HVAC and plumbers to have things checked out at the condo.

It was an interesting week for me as I stretched my brain with different types of presentations and calculations at work. As well as tried to learn how the new shop operates and about the people I work with.   Something is always happening and it's good to stretch myself although it can be frustrating as well when I need to learn something new. How about you? What comes up for you in new situations?

I attended a good meeting of the weight loss surgery group the other night. It is so interesting to hear success and not so successful stories. I like the honesty of these people and what they are going through is in many ways exactly what I'm going through. I'm getting closer to my decision and should know in a few weeks whether or not when I can meet with the surgeons office for more discussions. I believe I know the type of surgery I want, but will validate that with the doctor. I am keeping up my food journals and trying to exercise more so that's a start.   I had a fabulous walk at the beach the first day of our arrival and hope to have another one this afternoon.

I am eating lots of food I should not this weekend. Perhaps it's the mentality of I will not be eating this stuff in a few months...hmmm...that just popped into my head.   All I know is I have talked about wanting some fried chicken for weeks and decided since I was headed south I should be able to find some at Myrtle. I think it's because it is something that I do not eat except perhaps once a year that made it sound more appealing.

I asked a local person yesterday where she would suggest I go and she asked her co-workers. They all indicated a place called Maryland Fried Chicken. I must say I have driven by this dive looking storefront restaurant for almost six years and never thought about going in until yesterday. Went there last night for dinner and I must say it was DELICIOUS!! The sides were ok, but I can honestly say they focus on the chicken. The prices are terrfic as well.   I thought to myself, never judge a book by its cover.!!

As I have said previously, I feel energized when I'm at the beach although I have been sleeping in a bit and having a lazy morning. We forgot in planning the trip for an HOA meeting that it was the beginning of spring break. You know what that means...lots of people and lots of kids. Last night it took a while to drive down Ocean Blvd because of all people. I have not traveled here too much in the "season" so to speak so I was surprised at all the people.   We hope to explore some of our familiar places this afternoon to complete our venture before heading back tomorrow.

We are having a visitor this week back home. Our friend Brock arrives on Wednesday from Illinois for a little visit. We can't wait to see him as it's been a couple of years (at least for me). He is 13 now so we have been trying to determine things for him to do, but also building in some down time for him. We will give him some options and let him decide what he wants to do. I have to work most of the week so at night or next weekend is when I'll be joining in on the fun. We have known him since he was 10 months old and when he moved away with his family it was very sad for us.   I can't wait to see how he's grown into young manhood.

Are you a planner or more spontaneous? I know I'm a planner (ask my sister it drives her crazy). There is nothing wrong with being either one, but we can drive each other crazy. I'm planning to visit family in June for my nephews graduation and my parents 55th anniversary. Trying to plan dinner out and such when schedules are involved can be a little much. I'm hoping it all comes together. Of course, I'm also thinking how many schools are graduating? Will it be difficult to get reservations? What about a car? etc....see how my mind swirls around planning. How do you handle it?

I think that's it for today. I am going to get ready and head out for breakfast. I'll be checking in with you soon. Take care. Marie

"Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact." -William James

“If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today.” - E. Joseph Cossman

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” - Mark Twain

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Thought for a Sunday - 25 March 2012

2012-03-25T16:54:38Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well. I'm looking out my window today at a gray sky and the possibility of rain for the day. We had some rain yesterday as well so it was nice to sit home, get laundry done and catch up on the all the shows recorded this past week. I hope you got to relax a little this weekend. The tulips are up in my neighborhood and so many trees and flowers are in bloom - it's magnificent how nature moves from one season to another.

I had a good week overall. I started my new job and I jumped right in although still need to figure out a few things and get the appropriate items to do the job.   I was welcomed with homemade breakfast - which was a great way to start the week.   I am still figuring out schedules and such, but I think I will be able to have some fun and make a contribution. It was great to see some old friends and arrange to start walking and talking.

I had to drop some stuff off at my old office and got to run into my co-worker that always started my day with a hug.    When this man envelopes you in a hug you know you are liked and cared for.   It's amazing how I miss that hug so seeing him on Friday when he is usually not there was meant to be. He never hugged anyone that did not want a hug. The hug is a wonderful powerful energy to be given first thing in the morning. I know some of you are probably horrified at the thought of a hug at work and how it's not politically correct - especially since you know I'm an HR expert. All I can say is, I have worked for many years in an atmosphere where many of us hugged - not every day - but when you saw someone you had not seen in a while or because something joyful/sorrowful happened. I have been very lucky in my working life to be able to connect with so many people.   How do you connect with people?

You know by now that I'm fascinated by Oprah's Network Soul Sunday. There is a group that is part of it and every week they chew on life's big questions. The segment is called Soul Pancake and they make vignettes/videos.    Soul Pancake   It is extremely interesting and sometimes its amazing what they bring forward. Let me know what you think or if you recommend any websites.

I did not have a lot of time for reading this week, but the one small book I did read: Chemo and Me, My Hairloss Experience. Written and Illustrated by Tani Miller. It is written in an entirely upbeat way to help ease the fear and apprehension. It was published by the American Cancer Society and I came across it about a year ago in a small store and picked it up to see what it was about.    I'm not going through chemo or anything like that, but I think I was drawn to the book because of the time I had my head shaved and the reaction of those around me.   I was fine with losing my hair at the time and I used it as a teaching lesson about communication and how to handle life's fiascoes with humor.

I'm heading to the beach next week for a busy long weekend. Hopefully I will be able to get in plenty of walks on the beach - at least that's the plan for now. It's my best friend's birthday this week - Happy Birthday Patti.

I'll sign off here this week. I hope you have a good one. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar for the next two weeks:

   26 March: Make Your Own Holiday Day
   30 March: Doctor's Day
     1 April: Palm Sunday and April Fool's Day
     2 April: International Children's Book Day
     3 April: Find a Rainbow Day
     4 April: Passover Begins and Good Friday

"IT IS NOT WHAT YOU GIVE YOUR FRIEND, BUT WHAT YOU ARE WILLING TO GIVE...THAT DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF FRIENDSHIP." Mary Dixon Thayer, Poet/Writer

"IT IS NOT EASY TO FIND HAPPINESS IN OURSELVES, AND IT IS NOT POSSIBLE TO FIND IT ELSEWHERE." Agnes Repplier, Essayist, Social Critic.


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Thought for a Sunday - 18 March 2012

2012-03-18T16:32:57Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well for mid March. I'm looking out my window this morning at a very overcast sky with occasional spritzes of rain. It was about 55 degrees this morning when I went out for breakfast. I can't believe the trees and flowers that have bloomed. The predictions are that the cherry blossoms in DC will peak this week - almost two weeks early. I feel bad for the people who plan the festival as the blooms may be gone before it starts.

I'm still a bit tired from losing one hour of sleep last weekend. Or it's been an exhausting week ...... hmmmm .... may be a bit of both.

I must say WOW!!!!! what a week I had.   It is not often that we get to hear how co-workers feel about us or how you may have impacted their lives and this past week I got to hear lots of that.   It was my last week in a job I have had for over 3 years supporting many people all over. First, I must say that I was not liking the idea of this job over 3 years ago, but I went where I was instructed so to speak.   Well, I can honestly say 3 1/2 years later, what a learning experience it was and I'm so grateful for the opportunities I had over this time. I had the opportunity to gain new knowledge, use my expertise to teach others, travel, and definitely widen my circles. It's time to move to another position and I am ready to pursue another avenue and step into the land of management again. This is actually a change I'm embracing.   How about you? Any changes coming down the pike? How are you handling it?

To get back to my WOW - My colleagues planned a farewell lunch for me and in doing so created a small book titled "Memories of Marie." Several colleagues and customers provided comments and/or stories that went into the book. My supervisor added pictures of flowers and such and had it bound. I never knew was supervisor was so creative and crafty. I was SHOCKED to say the least and teary eyed. I saved the book to read yesterday when I had time to absorb the words - WOW again. I can't express how grateful am I that I had the opportunity to read the words. I am so blessed. I hope you have an opportunity to really absorb how you impact people.   Have you ever expressed to someone how they impact you?

This change has also brought about my doing some spring cleaning. Not only did I clean out much of the stuff I carry from job to job, but I'm working on cleaning out at home. I'm looking around my room and house and thinking WOW do I have a lot of stuff. Most of it is not junk, but I've had it a long long time. When I was young my aunt sold Avon and I have lots of figurines (many with the perfume intact) that have filled up shelves - some of them are from the 70s. I don't expect any to be worth money, but I'm sure there are collectors out there in the world.   Now to figure out how to move my collectibles along.

I was able to get caught up this week on a few magazines that I have had laying around. Now if I could only remember to carry them with me when I workout - I leave them at the center for others to enjoy.   I just received a few books I ordered so it's time to buckle down and start reading.

I'm going to sign off now and get the rest of my day moving. I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care. Chat soon.   Marie

Calendar Highlights:

    18 March - First Walk in Space Day
    20 March - First Day of Spring
    21 March - World Poetry Day
    22 March - National Goof Off Day
    23 March - Toast Day

TEN THOUGHTS

Whole Living Magazine April 2012

1. ACTION IS ONE OF THE BEST REMEDIES FOR FEAR.
2. IF YOU WANT HAPPINESS FOR A LIFETIME, HELP THE NEXT GENERATION.
3. WORTH ASKING: WHERE IN MY WORK IS THE OPPORTUNITY TO IMPROVE THE WORLD, EVEN IN THE SMALLEST WAY?
4. MAKING WAVES MAY BE RISKIER THAN TREADING WATER - BUT IT'S ALMOST MORE PRODUCTIVE.
5. GOING GREEN IS LIKE PROTECTING YOUR HEALTH; IT COMES DOWN TO RESPECTING THE PLACE YOU INHABIT.
6. OFTEN IT'S NOT OUR VALUES THAT ARE FAULTY, BUT OUR PRIORITIES.
7. IT'S IMPOSSIBLE TO LEARN TO SWIM WITHOUT JUMPING IN THE WATER.
8. FOLLOW WHAT MAKES YOU NATURALLY CURIOUS; IT WILL LEAD YOU TO YOUR PASSIONS AND PURPOSE.
9. TRY NOT TO CONFUSE ONE DEFEAT WITH TOTAL DEFEAT.
10. EACH TIME YOU TURN ON THE FAUCET, LET IT BE A REMINDER TO GO WITH THE FLOW.

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Thought for a Sunday - 11 March 2012

2012-03-11T15:48:52Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well. Out my window this morning is a clear blue sky. Looks are deceiving as its only about 38 degrees with a cold breeze. We have hardly had a winter so the daffodils are bloomed and many of the trees have buds. Some of the spring trees already have color on them.

Did you turn your clock ahead and lose that hour of sleep? I know I did and thank goodness I have a massage later so I can grab a nap. How are you impacted by losing that hour of sleep? Have you ever thought about how many clocks you have around that don't automatically change the time? There is at least one clock in every room in my house (plus car) that need to be updated and that does not include watches. Do you think that means I'm a little time obsessed?   What about you? I know I am very aware of time and I hate to be late so I worry about time. I wonder what would happen if I stopped worrying about time so much? What do you think?

This past week I had a few sad thoughts as I realized I was facilitating a particular learning group for the last time. With my change of jobs coming up; I am leaving some of my old duties behind.   I never thought I would enjoy facilitating/teaching as much as I have over the past couple of years.   As I ran the students through the final exercises, we took a break for a discussion of career management with one of their senior officers. The officer at the end said to the students, I hope you are getting much out of this class and Marie as this whole portion is her baby. When he said that I had an internal emotional reaction as I realized he was right. I am protective of it because it is my baby. I created it, developed it, changed it as necessary and now I am walking away from it. I was extremely sad because no one from my current workplace knows what I do, has ever seen what the session is about, and how I currently handle it. I must admit it made me feel very unimportant for a few minutes. Then I realized I have had the utmost trust of my senior management all of this time to basically do what I want. I was sad about the whole thing for a bit of time and then on the long drive home I realized that now the group I'm leaving has the opportunity for change. They can have the discussion with senior management to see if the course is still valued; how it might change; is it still necessary and someone will have the ability to take ownership for the future. Having that epiphany and awareness was startling to me and also settling as I felt a whole lot better and more at peace.    What do you think? Have you gone through something like this in your life?

My back is doing much better. I was even able to work out yesterday - and it felt pretty good. Did not over exercise, but spent 45 minutes in class and held up.   I'm not even stiff this morning so that's a good sign. I'm still taking it one day at a time.

I'm reading an incredible book. It was given to me by a dear friend as I contemplate weigh loss surgery. It's titled: EAT IT UP!! by Connie Stapleton, PH.D. It is about the mind/body/spirit guide to life after surgery. It is easy to read, but very deep.   It brings up the stuff that many of us don't like to deal with. I'm about half way through the book and have had several "aha" moments.

I'm going to stop here for today.   I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar of events this week:

11 March - Johnny Appleseed Day
12 March - Girl Scout Day
14 March - Albert Einstein's Birthday
16 March - Everything You Do Is Right Today
17 March - St. Patrick's Day and my friend we call him Uncle David's Birthday

"YOU MUST START WITH A POSITIVE ATTITUDE OR YOU WILL SURELY END WITHOUT ONE" Carrie Latet

"WHEN YOU CHOOSE TO BE PLEASANT AND POSITIVE IN THE WAY YOU TREAT OTHERS, YOU HAVE ALSO CHOSEN, IN MOST CASES, HOW YOU ARE GOING TO BE TREATED BY OTHERS." Zig Ziglar

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Thought for a Sunday - 4 March 2012

2012-03-04T17:17:09Z

Hi Everyone.   Hope you are well this first Sunday of March. I am looking out my window at a pretty blue sky with lovely clouds. I almost put 5 March in the title as I set my watch incorrectly yesterday when the date displayed 1 March - only a little behind and then I went one day ahead.   Oh well, maybe by the end of the week I'll figure out the date.

It was definitely a weird week for me dealing with the back issues I mentioned last week. I took Monday off and went to my doctor with my X-rays and prescriptions. I guess I thought there would be a miracle cure - since I always wait too long before I go to the doctor. The doctor listened to everything I had to say, checked my x-rays, and did some checking on her own. The doctor said she did not see any bone on bone or disc issues. She did see some deterioration (expected as we age), but did not think there was a herniated disc.   She thought I had the right prescriptions and gave me additional exercises.   I must say that for the first time in forever, I actually left work early every day (when my back got tired) and came home for a nap. I did not take my normal power naps (20 minutes), I would actually sleep for almost two hours - it felt like complete exhaustion. I'm much better this weekend although I still have a few tweaks now and then.   I think I learned this week that my body was trying to tell me something about taking care of myself and when I did not listen too well the body decided I needed a bigger message.

Lots of milestones in my life this past week - 28 February I was with the federal government for 30 years (who would have thought I would last these many years when I started). On 1 March, my best friend and I became roommates 29 years ago....yes that's 29. We have been through many changes - from having 3 or 4 additional roommates, to owning homes, to helping each other handle many issues both personal and professional.    My best friend also celebrated her third anniversary as a retiree.   Of course, having these milestones also brought up memories - some good some not so good.   I prefer to dwell on the good things that happened.   Have you had any milestones lately?   What shows up for you when you think about the milestones in your life?

I have been doing fun reading this past week - catching up with magazines and reading love stories.   What have you been reading?

I'm going to sign off now as I'm getting distracted by Super Soul Sunday on TV.   I'm learning about Sufism and Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee.

I hope you have a wonderful week. I hope you listen to your body and take some time for yourself. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Last weeks calendar events:
26 February: Carnival Day
27 February: International Polar Bear Day
1 March: Share a Smile Day
1 March: National Craft Month Begins
2 March: Dr. Seuss' Birthday
3 March: National Anthem Day

This weeks calendar events:
6 March: Dentist's Day
7 March: Purim Begins

Words by Nic Askew

"Perhaps with understanding, comes the falling away of judgment. And with the falling away of judgment, comes the ability to see with clarity.

And with such an ability to see, comes the opportunity to share a wealth beyond measure. Perhaps such opportunity exists between any two souls."

Saying by Llewellyn Vaughan-Lee

"In order to hear the guidance that comes from within we need to attune ourself to the frequency of the heart and be sensitive to the still, small voice of the Self."

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Thought for a Sunday - 26 February 2012

2012-02-26T16:24:55Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well and you had a good week.    I'm looking out my living room window at a clear blue sky with a chilly wind - but nothing like the winds we had yesterday. The weatherperson indicated it will feel at least 25 degrees warmer just because the wind died down.   I can not believe it's almost March!!

Yes, I'm writing from my living room and not where I thought I would be today. Those of you that know we realize I was supposed to be half way across the world today and maybe not writing until tomorrow. Well a funny thing happened on the way to the airport - only it was not too funny.

Since last weekend my back and hips have been really bothering me. So much so that I used heat, ice, acupuncture, chiropractic with electric stimulus.   Thought it was feeling better on Friday so I was not too worried about the trip.   Well, Saturday morning dawned with me in so much pain and stiff that I could not believe it. I was barely walking. Of course, in the back of my mind was I made a commitment I have to go, never mind the thought of flying for about 20 hours had me thinking of torture. Well, we stopped for breakfast on the way to the airport, and my best friend kept asking me if something was wrong because my hands were shaking. I was in so much pain and trying (not very successfully) to not show what bad shape I was in.   Well, when I went to the ladies room the pain was so bad it brought tears to my eyes.   I ended up going to a new clinic that opened near us instead of the airport.

The Patient First clinic was wonderful. It was the cleanest facility I have seen in quite a long time.   I got to tour almost the whole facility as I completed different tests.   The dr, nurses, and techs were extremely polite and very friendly as they took care of me. I had an immediate shot to reduce inflammation and xrays. Part of me kept thinking perhaps I can still make the plane for my trip....wrong thought.    After everything was completed, I had four prescriptions, a cd of my xrays to bring to my own dr, and an idea of what the problem may be.   They recommended I have an MRI, but I'm holding off until I see my doctor tomorrow.   I was in and out of there in and hour and a half and felt very good about my experience.   The dr did say I should not even consider getting on the plane and should definitely see my dr on Monday. The nurse told me that every facility looks exactly the same and everything internally is the same. So if one person goes to help out at another facility the person could work immediately without trying to figure out a new system - what a great idea.

I do feel horrible that I could not go on the trip - especially at the last minute. I have never not honored my commitments.   I could not contact the people I was to travel with ahead of time so hopefully, I can get a hold of them tomorrow with instructions for what I was supposed to present.   I am giving up control because I must and I have to have trust in those that did go that they will present my portion of the program well. I know it will not be exactly the same as I would handle it, but that does not mean it will not be as good.   It's funny because I will be transitioning out of my current job over the next few weeks so perhaps it was karma that brought me to my knees and forced me not to go. Of course, I am saving money by not shopping.

My best friend is wonderful as always. She was going to help me with my businesses while I traveled, but now she's taking care of me as well. I am very grateful for her. She even insists on taking me to the dr - I think she's afraid I might sneak off to work if she does not keep an eye on me. I did take a few naps yesterday and I probably will today. I'm sitting and standing a bit better, but still have spasms and aches - she will not have to worry about me going anywhere.

I went to the acupuncturist the other evening and as I walked in the door she said to me, we flunked fostering! I started laughing as her dogs were all around looking to be petted or to play. She and her partner have two dogs already and had decided to foster a pup for a little while. Teddy is the cutest little pup.   After two weeks they have decided that Teddy is staying. Her older dog is ill and nearing the end so I think Teddy came at the right time. I don't think she jump into fostering right away if at all - I know I could not do it as I could not give up the animal. I can't think in short term stays.

I have been watching an interview with Daniel Pink - the author of A Whole New Mind. It's a book about why right brainers will rule the future. The future belongs to a different kind of person with a different kind of mind: artists, inventors, storytellers-creative and holistic "right-brain" thinkers whose abilities mark the fault line between who gets ahead and who doesn't. I might have to pick up this book as I am so left brain that I will need to work on those right brain skills.   The book also contains some right brain exercises. I read the reviews and they are not great, yet I believe to each his own.   Let me know if you have read the book and your opinion.

No calendar update this week - I don't want to walk upstairs and grab the calendar.

I better get going as I have been sitting up long enough for this morning. I hope you have a wonderful week. Chat soon. Marie

"It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver." - Mohandas Gandhi

"When we quit thinking primarily about ourselves and our own self-preservation, we undergo a truly heroic transformation of consciousness." - Joseph Campbell

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Thought for a Sunday- 19 February 2012

2012-02-19T17:22:17Z

Hi Everyone. Hope you had a good week. Thank you for taking a few minutes of your busy day to spend with me. I'm looking out my window this morning at a cold gray sky. The weather people have been talking for days about a possible winter storm and again I may be disappointed. I would love a really good snowstorm, but I feel this year I am out of luck. Not sure if you are experiencing a normal winter or not, but I realize I may not like it, but there are many others that are appreciative of an abnormal winter. We have spring flower stalks about halfway up since the weather has been so warm.

I had a good week - even walked a few times after work. Although the original intention was for a walk with a friend and her dog, I am usually waiting for my friend so thank goodness I have keys to her house as I take the dog for a nice walk any way. I send my friend a text letting her know we have completed our walk and usually I am either home or on the way when she responds. She gets held up at work more than I do so although we don't have a chance to chat, the dog and I are exercising.   I usually try to walk a brisk pace and not think about anything in particular - I don't want to solve any issues just enjoy the walk. I feel a little more in sync when the walk is complete. What do you do to put yourself in sync?

I attended a training class on Monday/Tuesday about organizational change and how people react. I have learned (perhaps because of the place I am in my life) to look at change differently than I did in the past. I may not jump right in, but I am definitely more open to it. I may question it, but in the content of moving forward.   I did ponder on how quickly we get ourselves in a routine. Monday we went in and picked seats, although we moved around during the day we always went back to our original seats. Tuesday morning we all went back to the seats from Monday. The instructor waited until class started and then said, I forget to tell you that you have to change seats so everyone pick up all your stuff and move to another table. Well I did not change my seat. I pick where I sit or stand for various reasons - usually because I want to watch everything going on around me. I am a person that either sits front row or completely in the back row. I knew everyone else would jump up and move and I would have new people at the table so that was good enough for me. The instructor never said a word, but I know he noticed. I am a person that does follow a routine and sometimes I have to purposely shake myself up - what about you?

On Saturday I went to a business expo in a town nearby. It focused on local businesses and a friend with a business was having a set up so I grabbed another friend and went out there. It was really a gorgeous day here yesterday so it was perfect for a drive in the country so to speak. The expo was very well attended and my friend's set up looked great!   I purchased quite a few of her treats and she seemed to be on the way to selling out by the end of the afternoon. If you in the area and walk to check out her treats: Linda's website.   If you did not pay attention you could have gotten a little tipsy a the event as there were several vineyards represented giving samples and one distillery (whisky sample was wonderful-:}) I stopped at one sample, but I must say I felt the warmth spread immediately through my body and my back which was kinked almost all day started to relax. They also had quite a few farms for local produce, meat, etc.   What a great way to spend some time supporting local businesses. Have you attended any of these expos? Are you surprised by what's in your area?

I went with another friend to lunch after the expo and we had a very pleasant afternoon full of good conversation. She made me laugh when she said, will you write about this in your blog? I said, not sure, but I promise not to use your name. With this in mind, I decided I would call her Snowflake today.   We had some good discussions about changes (and I don't mean midlife) that she is making and the impact. She has a tendency to ponder and ponder and ponder which can be paralyzing for some people.   Some of the her decisions will definitely impact other areas of her life.   A couple of times I would throw some outrageous deadlines in the mix to see what would happen and you could see her practically shrink to think that would mean change sooner.   I am hoping I was a good ear and used my inquisitiveness to bring clarity for her.   I am also hoping I provided good food for thought. Have you listened to a friend recently?

I know I mention the OWN TV network off and on, as I really really enjoy Oprah's Super Soul Sunday. This week I am learning about the Shadow Effect which is a documentary by Debbie Ford. It is really interesting about the parts of us that we hide. There will be an interview after the movie with Debbie so I'm hoping to catch that as well. I went to website Debbie Ford to sign up for weekly emails.

I'm working on taxes today for a small investment group I am part of. It does not make my day as I don't find this sort of thing fun. I look at it as something I must do and want to get done soonest. It does teach me patience though as I have to continue to look at the instructions and past examples. It does force a bit of organizational skill to be sure everything is together that is needed.   Hopefully, I'll finish this afternoon and will still squeeze in a nap. What happens to you when doing something you don't really want to do?

I am halfway done the final vigilante books I have been reading (#20). They have provided me many laughs over the past few weeks. Once completed, I can then focus on the two months worth of magazines I have stacked up and a bunch of other books. I love to read as my imagination becomes very active picturing everything that is happening.

Just a heads up that next week the blog will be late. I'm traveling so it may be a day early or a day late - depending on when I put it together.

I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"LIFE'S CHALLENGES ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO PARALYZE YOU; THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO HELP YOU DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE." Bernice Johnson Reagon

"ONE IS TAUGHT BY EXPERIENCE TO PUT A PREMIUM ON THOSE FEW PEOPLE WHO CAN APRECIATE YOU FOR WHAT YOU ARE." Gail Godwin

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 12 February 2012

2012-02-12T16:19:46Z

Hi Everyone. Hope you are well and had a good week. It's a sunny, cold, quite windy day out my window this morning.   I was out earlier and the wind is bone chilling. I'm very happy that I do not have to work outside or walk a dog on a day like today.

My week went well.   Lots of positive energy surrounds me these days.   I have been saying for quite a while I feel like something big would be coming my way. The good news is that I got the job I have been wanting for a long time.   I am really excited about starting the job some time in March and jumping right in.   I am sad about leaving my current job because I have had a lot more fun than I expected over the past 3 1/2 years. I have met lots of great colleagues and helped lots of customers.   My colleagues know that they can continue to use me as needed even when I move on - it's just how I am.   How has your positive energy worked for you lately?

On another front, I had coffee with a dear friend the other evening. She has had weight loss surgery so I was trying to get as much information as I possibly could. We talked about the psychological part of weight gain and weight loss as well as many other things.   I don't remember if I mentioned previously, but one of the questions my coach has thrown out at me is since I don't like to me the center of attention; how would I be if my weight loss causes me to be the center of attention. Well my friend the other night said to me...don't you realize Marie that you are already the center of attention in many ways? She went on to say that when I enter a room or I am already in the room that people gravitate toward me and even felt a little fear. People want to be around me and my energy.   I know I just looked at her in a stunned way. She also said if I get attention I don't want I now have ample strengths and weapons (which we did not have as youngsters) to get away from those people.    I was blown away as I have never thought of myself that way. She did call me on the fact that I immediately diverted the subject to talk about something else. What she does not realize is that I have thought about that conversation at some point every day this past week. I will definitely have more to discuss with my coach in a couple of weeks. Have you had any thought provoking conversations lately?

I'm still reading my women vigilante novels. The stories and the characters just make me laugh.   She has some given the male characters some really funny dialogue in how they help each other as well as the women they support.   I went to the author's website and found that she has actually given the characters faces and they were not what I expected so it threw me off. After reading 17 of the books, I have a pretty good picture in my head of what I think the characters look like so I was disappointed. I even told my best friend that I was extremely disappointed that I had looked.   I thought of when I see a movie and the character is not what I expected.   Has this happened to you before?

I don't know if any of you ever watch the OWN network, but sometimes I catch a few of the shows. I enjoy Oprah's Soul Sundays. This morning she is talking with author Gary Zukav and his spouse about spiritual partnership.

My cortisone shot seems to have worked pretty much. I guess the pain was worth the gain. I have good mobility back and only pain on occasion. I am hoping I never need another ever.

Well, I need to get moving as I have to do some work at one my careers. Please feel free to let me know if there is any topic you would ever like me to discuss in the blog. Stay warm and have a good week.   Take care. Chat soon. Marie

LIGHTER, OR DARKER by Nic Askew

Each encounter holds the capacity to render us lighter.

Or to colour the experience of our world darker.

Each encounter holds the capacity to engage
our sense of wonder.

Or to help us hide from noticing the
experience of being human.

Each encounter holds the capacity to
tell its story without expectation.

Or to force on the world an opinion
of how it must be.

Each encounter holds the capacity for
us to recognise our sameness.

Or to escape into the experience
of separateness.

And with each encounter comes a decision.

To make our world lighter.

Or darker.

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 5 February 2012

2012-02-05T16:21:29Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well this Superbowl Sunday. Looking out my window this morning at chilly gray sky - looks like it storm. I did see a few snowflakes this morning when I was out for breakfast. Is winter arriving here? Probably not, just a bit of teaser.

It was a fairly quiet week for me. Although I did receive my first cortisone shot and I hope never ever to repeat that event again.   As many know I have had problems with my thumb and wrist for several months. I tried everything from heat to ice to acupuncture to wraps and it was getting worse.   I saw the orthopedic surgeon on Friday and within 15 minutes my xrays were reviewed and everything was explained to me - next thing you know - I'm prepped for a shot.   The doctor let me know when she was going to hurt me and boy did it ever hurt. She first took her fingernail and stuck it right in the joint to mark where she wanted the needle and then immediately stuck in the needle.    She did ask if I was dizzy or going to pass out - which I did not. I did think my mom would already be on the floor. I hope never to go through that again. Keep your fingers crossed that the shot worked and everything goes back to normal.

I did find out Friday night that I have competition for the job I have been wanting for months.   I am not focusing on the competition just feeling confident in my abilities, skills and knowledge. I'm prepping for interviews that may not happen for a week or so.   I am in such a good place about this and as I said to a friend of mine, if it's meant to be then so be it.

I am getting an opportunity to take on some additional coaching clients focusing on new supervisors/managers.   The opportunity presented itself the other day and for once I did not let it pass me by. I decided its time to step up and make it more real in my every day life.   Sometimes I am my own critic.   Are you your own worst enemy?

My reading this past week has focused on some fun novels. I get such a kick out of this series about the Sisterhood - a group of women vigilantes. The plot usually revolves around something that has happened in Washington, DC and the world of politics.    These women and their support system take the bad guys down without killing anyone. They use humor and many plot lines that could be taken from real life. This past week I read number 13 and I am halfway done with the 14th book. There are a few more to go, but sometimes it's fun to escape into the story.    I know when I mention many of the books, that a few read them and many do not which is fine, as everyone has different tastes. But, this past week my best friend happened to read The Invisible Thread that I mentioned that week.   She told me she really enjoyed it and was glad I recommended it.   Have you read anything fun?

I love Superbowl Sunday. I totally enjoy the hype and all day coverage. I do have to attend a birthday party, but it's early afternoon so I can be home in plenty of time.   Of course, I want the Pats to win since I'm a fan from way back.   This morning I purchased the makings for nachos - dinner of champions:}   I just want to see a good game and of course great commercials. Not sure why they felt the need to release so many of the commercials early as to me the most fun is seeing them during the game.   Do you look forward to the commercials and the hype?

I was in an office the other day where everyone was wearing football shirts. I said to one woman that was in the same meeting - I like the Vikings too, but you have the wrong shirt on. She got up and left the room only to return with a Pats shirt on. Turns out she has almost all of the team shirts and was changing shirts every hour....how fun is that?

I had a conversation this past week about words and how they hurt. The conversation involved how the teenage generation has really not focused on how the words they use - whether it be written or spoken can hurt others. I'm not talking about bullying - as that is an entire different dialogue. The conversation was about that it's great to be honest, but the wording of that honesty can really hurt.   Should we not consider how we could hurt someone else? Also we discussed how many of the teenage generation are not as emotional or at least it seems that way. So I started thinking have we made a generation of emotionless people? Does flooding their world with images of death, dying, war, crises, etc. make them come to a stage of not reacting? Is it just part of life?   I think it would be better to pass on something positive in a conversation vice just spew words that could hurt. Something to ponder and to have more conversations about.

I am going to get going on that note. I hope you enjoy your week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar Events for the week:

5 February - Super Bowl XLVI
8 February - Fly a Kite Day
9 February - Toothache Day

"...CONVERSATION HAS THE ABILITY TO EITHER BUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP OR ERODE IT." Margie Warrell from her book Find Your Courage

"THE TRUE MEASURE OF AN INDIVIDUAL IS HOW HE TREATS A PERSON WHO DO HIM ABSOLUTELY NO GOOD." Ann Landers

"AN EFFORT MADE FOR THE HAPPINESS OF OTHERS LIFTS ABOVE OURSELVES." Lydia M. Child

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 29 January 2012

2012-01-29T16:30:57Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well this last Sunday (can you believe it already) in January. I am looking out my window this morning at a cloudy sky, but not dark and stormy. It was sunny when I was out early this morning. Still not really winter here in Northern Virginia - we had a small storm this past week, but it amounted to nothing. Not sure what's happening where you are, but I hope it's what you want or expect this time of year.

My week was really good so I hope yours was as well.   I finally got to apply for a job I have been wanting for a long time. Last year I actually wrote it out and even created a plan of action for what I would want to do if I got the job.   So I'm finally excited that it was advertised and I got to apply. It will be a few weeks before I know anything, but it feels right. I'm stepping back into the world of supervisory/management work and that's a little scary for me although I have changed and grown so much since I last did it that I'm sure I'll be better. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

I picked up a new client in my other business so it was sort of busy this week trying to get everything done for a new client.   I only took on the new client because I know I will be losing two clients this year.   I have decided I have a limit of how many clients I can handle at once and I'm really trying to stick to it. I realized I was a bit overwhelmed with too many clients, but it was a lesson I had to learn.   I wanted time for me and my friends so with too many clients I was not there for myself and others.   Have you been able to figure out how to make some time for yourself? A little balance never hurt anyone!!

Last night I finished this wonderful book: An Invisible Thread by Laura Schroff and Alex Tresniowski. It's the true story of an 11-year-old panhandler, a busy sales executive, and an unlikely meeting with destiny.   I could relate to many aspects of the book and realize why it's so important to give back. I'm not sure we ever understand how we impact others. The book is not very thick, but really touched me.   I'm sure those of you with readers don't care how thick it is (LOL)! I hope you get a chance to read it.    Have any recommendations?

I met with some friends yesterday that I have not seen in a while. We got caught up on all the news about family and friends. It was a nice way to spend a Saturday afternoon. I did not expect to be there as long as I was, but it was nice.   The sad part was when we discussed a friend that they have known forever and a day. She may be the victim of verbal (they do not think physical) abuse. It was so hard to hear why my friends have come to the conclusion and I can see why they think this way. We discussed ways to be there for her whether it be listening without judgment or advising if she asks for it. As we all know until someone hits their breaking point there is not much others can do, but be there.   It was just so sad to hear the story as this is a much older friend and it might be her son and daughter-in-law that are the culprits.   This whole discussion made me so sad and in some ways angry. They asked if I regretted asking about her and I said no because having the discussion may have given them so ideas on how to help her. Any ideas?

Heading out to lunch with a friend and her aunts that I have not seen since we traveled to Ireland together several years ago. It will be nice to see them and enjoy some laughs today.   I hope you have some fun today.

Did you see last week the pre-game shows of both games? I laughed so hard at the segments with the e-trade babies. They were hysterical. I can't wait for Superbowl Sunday as I love all the hype and pre-game shows.   I definitely look forward to the commercials. Of course, now I have to wait months before I see the Fox pre-game show with Howie and Terry.

I have got to get moving here. I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar Events (Sorry I missed last week):

23 January - Chinese New Year and National Pie Day
25 January - Opposite Day
28 January - National Kazoo Day
29 January - National Puzzle Day
31 January - Backward Day
2 February - Groundhog Day
4 February - Thank a Mailman Day

The following is from Power Thought Cards by Louise L. Hay

I TRUST MY INNER WISDOM
AS I GO ABOUT MY DAILY AFFAIRS,
I LISTEN TO OWN GUIDANCE.
MY INTUITION IS ALWAYS ON MY SIDE.
I TRUST IT TO BE THERE AT ALL TIMES.
I AM SAFE.

Referrals are always welcome.

Thought for a Sunday - 22 January 2012

2012-01-22T21:30:14Z

Hi Everyone.   Hope this finds you well and you had a good week.   I'm looking out my window at a gloomy wintry sky.   We had a little bit of icy weather yesterday and we might get some more tonight.   We had nothing compared to some other parts of the country so I hope where you are you can be safe and warm.

It was a slow week for me in most areas of my life. Not necessarily a bad thing as this time of year I feel like I need to hibernate a bit more.    I just want to come home after work and chill. I did get to play Bunco with the ladies which is always fun. A couple of hours of dice and socializing never hurt anyone. The cost is minimal and the food is always good.

I have been busy working on the tax papers for my other business. Lots of review of papers and spreadsheets, but all-in-all I am almost done... YEAH!!! I like to be busy, but sometimes the details of running a business are tedious.   In many ways I would not change it, but sometimes I wish I could twitch my nose and it would all be done. Do you wish you could twitch your nose to get something done?

I did something unexpected this past week. I was off handling some business and decided to check out some luxury apartments I was reading about last week.    When I went I realized there was a neighborhood that popped up I had not even noticed.   I went in and explained why I was there and was immediately made comfortable in the lounge by the concierge while he got an office person.   I was taken on a tour of a couple of layouts - furnished and unfurnished.   She answered all of my questions and really had me thinking - this is the type of place I could live in when I retire from my day job.   It was originally built to be condos so the structure and extra noise controls were put in place. It's the lock and leave lifestyle I have talked about over the past couple of years.   After we sell the house we currently live in my best friend and I have talked about never owning again.    It has gotten my curiosity up to see other types of complexes.   What about you? Thinking about what's next?

It was a morning for me as I got a massage.   Ninety minutes of relaxation and having my my achy bones and joints manipulated is a wonderful thing. I then went for a fabulous steak and baked potato lunch.   Sometimes I crave steak. I don't eat it often, but when I say I want a steak I know I have to eat one.    Have you done something for yourself lately?

I had a meeting the other day at my favorite coffee shop. It's family owned and they have a wonderful place where you can tell most of the customers are regulars and they all know each other.   I was talking to the daughter of the owner and she was saying how hard the business is and although she does not want to disappoint her parents that she will not take it over. She wants to work in a regular office with regular hours and have a life. She loves the people, but not the actual business. She does not want to deal with finding a manager because she does not trust a lot of people and they have been ripped off in the past. I thought how disappointed the customers will be at some point, but at least for now her parents are still working there and the family all still help out. I immediately thought of a friend that would probably thrive in this shop with her baking and cooking talents. It's too far of a commute for her, but I could picture this as clear as day. Have you been able to picture something so clearly that you wish it could happen?   That's how I felt.

I have been doing some thinking about family dynamics. I have friends that have divorced or separated with children. How do you handle the special issues or events that come up?   Perhaps I'm naive, but to me, if a child is the focus the adults should be mature, considerate and responsible enough to put differences aside.   I know that does not happen in many cases, but it took two to create this blessing of a child.   I know someone who's family lives in another country and she has not seen them in over three years because her ex-husband will not let her take her child out of the country. She wants to see her father as he is in poor health and will return here because she has a job and wants to create a good life for her and her son. Her ex told her he would bring her to court if she even talks about going to visit family.    Since she does not make lots of money she is worried about lawyers and fees.   She just told me today that someone brought her dad a computer with Skype and they got to see each other online the other day. I just can't understand the vindictiveness of some people.

On that note, I will get going. I'm watching the Patriots/Baltimore game and you know who I'm cheering for. GO PATS!!! I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Two pieces of writing provided today by Nic Askew

FADE INTO TIME

When all is said.
And done.

And my ashes
return
to dust.

The footsteps I
leave behind me
will fade into time.

They just will.

So might I make
the most of
these short days.

Might now be
my time to
live as only I can.

NOT KNOWING YOU

I have no idea who you are.

I know what it is that you do,
and where it is that you go.

But I have no idea of how you
face the perpetual challenge
that each day brings.

Or of what it is that
hurts your heart.

Or gives your very soul
cause to wake.

And in not knowing you,
there is a part of me
that will lie
forever asleep.

Of this I am certain.

Referrals are always appreciated.