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Thought for a Sunday- 19 February 2012

2012-02-19T17:22:17Z

Hi Everyone. Hope you had a good week. Thank you for taking a few minutes of your busy day to spend with me. I'm looking out my window this morning at a cold gray sky. The weather people have been talking for days about a possible winter storm and again I may be disappointed. I would love a really good snowstorm, but I feel this year I am out of luck. Not sure if you are experiencing a normal winter or not, but I realize I may not like it, but there are many others that are appreciative of an abnormal winter. We have spring flower stalks about halfway up since the weather has been so warm.

I had a good week - even walked a few times after work. Although the original intention was for a walk with a friend and her dog, I am usually waiting for my friend so thank goodness I have keys to her house as I take the dog for a nice walk any way. I send my friend a text letting her know we have completed our walk and usually I am either home or on the way when she responds. She gets held up at work more than I do so although we don't have a chance to chat, the dog and I are exercising.   I usually try to walk a brisk pace and not think about anything in particular - I don't want to solve any issues just enjoy the walk. I feel a little more in sync when the walk is complete. What do you do to put yourself in sync?

I attended a training class on Monday/Tuesday about organizational change and how people react. I have learned (perhaps because of the place I am in my life) to look at change differently than I did in the past. I may not jump right in, but I am definitely more open to it. I may question it, but in the content of moving forward.   I did ponder on how quickly we get ourselves in a routine. Monday we went in and picked seats, although we moved around during the day we always went back to our original seats. Tuesday morning we all went back to the seats from Monday. The instructor waited until class started and then said, I forget to tell you that you have to change seats so everyone pick up all your stuff and move to another table. Well I did not change my seat. I pick where I sit or stand for various reasons - usually because I want to watch everything going on around me. I am a person that either sits front row or completely in the back row. I knew everyone else would jump up and move and I would have new people at the table so that was good enough for me. The instructor never said a word, but I know he noticed. I am a person that does follow a routine and sometimes I have to purposely shake myself up - what about you?

On Saturday I went to a business expo in a town nearby. It focused on local businesses and a friend with a business was having a set up so I grabbed another friend and went out there. It was really a gorgeous day here yesterday so it was perfect for a drive in the country so to speak. The expo was very well attended and my friend's set up looked great!   I purchased quite a few of her treats and she seemed to be on the way to selling out by the end of the afternoon. If you in the area and walk to check out her treats: Linda's website.   If you did not pay attention you could have gotten a little tipsy a the event as there were several vineyards represented giving samples and one distillery (whisky sample was wonderful-:}) I stopped at one sample, but I must say I felt the warmth spread immediately through my body and my back which was kinked almost all day started to relax. They also had quite a few farms for local produce, meat, etc.   What a great way to spend some time supporting local businesses. Have you attended any of these expos? Are you surprised by what's in your area?

I went with another friend to lunch after the expo and we had a very pleasant afternoon full of good conversation. She made me laugh when she said, will you write about this in your blog? I said, not sure, but I promise not to use your name. With this in mind, I decided I would call her Snowflake today.   We had some good discussions about changes (and I don't mean midlife) that she is making and the impact. She has a tendency to ponder and ponder and ponder which can be paralyzing for some people.   Some of the her decisions will definitely impact other areas of her life.   A couple of times I would throw some outrageous deadlines in the mix to see what would happen and you could see her practically shrink to think that would mean change sooner.   I am hoping I was a good ear and used my inquisitiveness to bring clarity for her.   I am also hoping I provided good food for thought. Have you listened to a friend recently?

I know I mention the OWN TV network off and on, as I really really enjoy Oprah's Super Soul Sunday. This week I am learning about the Shadow Effect which is a documentary by Debbie Ford. It is really interesting about the parts of us that we hide. There will be an interview after the movie with Debbie so I'm hoping to catch that as well. I went to website Debbie Ford to sign up for weekly emails.

I'm working on taxes today for a small investment group I am part of. It does not make my day as I don't find this sort of thing fun. I look at it as something I must do and want to get done soonest. It does teach me patience though as I have to continue to look at the instructions and past examples. It does force a bit of organizational skill to be sure everything is together that is needed.   Hopefully, I'll finish this afternoon and will still squeeze in a nap. What happens to you when doing something you don't really want to do?

I am halfway done the final vigilante books I have been reading (#20). They have provided me many laughs over the past few weeks. Once completed, I can then focus on the two months worth of magazines I have stacked up and a bunch of other books. I love to read as my imagination becomes very active picturing everything that is happening.

Just a heads up that next week the blog will be late. I'm traveling so it may be a day early or a day late - depending on when I put it together.

I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"LIFE'S CHALLENGES ARE NOT SUPPOSED TO PARALYZE YOU; THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO HELP YOU DISCOVER WHO YOU ARE." Bernice Johnson Reagon

"ONE IS TAUGHT BY EXPERIENCE TO PUT A PREMIUM ON THOSE FEW PEOPLE WHO CAN APRECIATE YOU FOR WHAT YOU ARE." Gail Godwin

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 12 February 2012

2012-02-12T16:19:46Z

Hi Everyone. Hope you are well and had a good week. It's a sunny, cold, quite windy day out my window this morning.   I was out earlier and the wind is bone chilling. I'm very happy that I do not have to work outside or walk a dog on a day like today.

My week went well.   Lots of positive energy surrounds me these days.   I have been saying for quite a while I feel like something big would be coming my way. The good news is that I got the job I have been wanting for a long time.   I am really excited about starting the job some time in March and jumping right in.   I am sad about leaving my current job because I have had a lot more fun than I expected over the past 3 1/2 years. I have met lots of great colleagues and helped lots of customers.   My colleagues know that they can continue to use me as needed even when I move on - it's just how I am.   How has your positive energy worked for you lately?

On another front, I had coffee with a dear friend the other evening. She has had weight loss surgery so I was trying to get as much information as I possibly could. We talked about the psychological part of weight gain and weight loss as well as many other things.   I don't remember if I mentioned previously, but one of the questions my coach has thrown out at me is since I don't like to me the center of attention; how would I be if my weight loss causes me to be the center of attention. Well my friend the other night said to me...don't you realize Marie that you are already the center of attention in many ways? She went on to say that when I enter a room or I am already in the room that people gravitate toward me and even felt a little fear. People want to be around me and my energy.   I know I just looked at her in a stunned way. She also said if I get attention I don't want I now have ample strengths and weapons (which we did not have as youngsters) to get away from those people.    I was blown away as I have never thought of myself that way. She did call me on the fact that I immediately diverted the subject to talk about something else. What she does not realize is that I have thought about that conversation at some point every day this past week. I will definitely have more to discuss with my coach in a couple of weeks. Have you had any thought provoking conversations lately?

I'm still reading my women vigilante novels. The stories and the characters just make me laugh.   She has some given the male characters some really funny dialogue in how they help each other as well as the women they support.   I went to the author's website and found that she has actually given the characters faces and they were not what I expected so it threw me off. After reading 17 of the books, I have a pretty good picture in my head of what I think the characters look like so I was disappointed. I even told my best friend that I was extremely disappointed that I had looked.   I thought of when I see a movie and the character is not what I expected.   Has this happened to you before?

I don't know if any of you ever watch the OWN network, but sometimes I catch a few of the shows. I enjoy Oprah's Soul Sundays. This morning she is talking with author Gary Zukav and his spouse about spiritual partnership.

My cortisone shot seems to have worked pretty much. I guess the pain was worth the gain. I have good mobility back and only pain on occasion. I am hoping I never need another ever.

Well, I need to get moving as I have to do some work at one my careers. Please feel free to let me know if there is any topic you would ever like me to discuss in the blog. Stay warm and have a good week.   Take care. Chat soon. Marie

LIGHTER, OR DARKER by Nic Askew

Each encounter holds the capacity to render us lighter.

Or to colour the experience of our world darker.

Each encounter holds the capacity to engage
our sense of wonder.

Or to help us hide from noticing the
experience of being human.

Each encounter holds the capacity to
tell its story without expectation.

Or to force on the world an opinion
of how it must be.

Each encounter holds the capacity for
us to recognise our sameness.

Or to escape into the experience
of separateness.

And with each encounter comes a decision.

To make our world lighter.

Or darker.

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 5 February 2012

2012-02-05T16:21:29Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well this Superbowl Sunday. Looking out my window this morning at chilly gray sky - looks like it storm. I did see a few snowflakes this morning when I was out for breakfast. Is winter arriving here? Probably not, just a bit of teaser.

It was a fairly quiet week for me. Although I did receive my first cortisone shot and I hope never ever to repeat that event again.   As many know I have had problems with my thumb and wrist for several months. I tried everything from heat to ice to acupuncture to wraps and it was getting worse.   I saw the orthopedic surgeon on Friday and within 15 minutes my xrays were reviewed and everything was explained to me - next thing you know - I'm prepped for a shot.   The doctor let me know when she was going to hurt me and boy did it ever hurt. She first took her fingernail and stuck it right in the joint to mark where she wanted the needle and then immediately stuck in the needle.    She did ask if I was dizzy or going to pass out - which I did not. I did think my mom would already be on the floor. I hope never to go through that again. Keep your fingers crossed that the shot worked and everything goes back to normal.

I did find out Friday night that I have competition for the job I have been wanting for months.   I am not focusing on the competition just feeling confident in my abilities, skills and knowledge. I'm prepping for interviews that may not happen for a week or so.   I am in such a good place about this and as I said to a friend of mine, if it's meant to be then so be it.

I am getting an opportunity to take on some additional coaching clients focusing on new supervisors/managers.   The opportunity presented itself the other day and for once I did not let it pass me by. I decided its time to step up and make it more real in my every day life.   Sometimes I am my own critic.   Are you your own worst enemy?

My reading this past week has focused on some fun novels. I get such a kick out of this series about the Sisterhood - a group of women vigilantes. The plot usually revolves around something that has happened in Washington, DC and the world of politics.    These women and their support system take the bad guys down without killing anyone. They use humor and many plot lines that could be taken from real life. This past week I read number 13 and I am halfway done with the 14th book. There are a few more to go, but sometimes it's fun to escape into the story.    I know when I mention many of the books, that a few read them and many do not which is fine, as everyone has different tastes. But, this past week my best friend happened to read The Invisible Thread that I mentioned that week.   She told me she really enjoyed it and was glad I recommended it.   Have you read anything fun?

I love Superbowl Sunday. I totally enjoy the hype and all day coverage. I do have to attend a birthday party, but it's early afternoon so I can be home in plenty of time.   Of course, I want the Pats to win since I'm a fan from way back.   This morning I purchased the makings for nachos - dinner of champions:}   I just want to see a good game and of course great commercials. Not sure why they felt the need to release so many of the commercials early as to me the most fun is seeing them during the game.   Do you look forward to the commercials and the hype?

I was in an office the other day where everyone was wearing football shirts. I said to one woman that was in the same meeting - I like the Vikings too, but you have the wrong shirt on. She got up and left the room only to return with a Pats shirt on. Turns out she has almost all of the team shirts and was changing shirts every hour....how fun is that?

I had a conversation this past week about words and how they hurt. The conversation involved how the teenage generation has really not focused on how the words they use - whether it be written or spoken can hurt others. I'm not talking about bullying - as that is an entire different dialogue. The conversation was about that it's great to be honest, but the wording of that honesty can really hurt.   Should we not consider how we could hurt someone else? Also we discussed how many of the teenage generation are not as emotional or at least it seems that way. So I started thinking have we made a generation of emotionless people? Does flooding their world with images of death, dying, war, crises, etc. make them come to a stage of not reacting? Is it just part of life?   I think it would be better to pass on something positive in a conversation vice just spew words that could hurt. Something to ponder and to have more conversations about.

I am going to get going on that note. I hope you enjoy your week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar Events for the week:

5 February - Super Bowl XLVI
8 February - Fly a Kite Day
9 February - Toothache Day

"...CONVERSATION HAS THE ABILITY TO EITHER BUILD TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP OR ERODE IT." Margie Warrell from her book Find Your Courage

"THE TRUE MEASURE OF AN INDIVIDUAL IS HOW HE TREATS A PERSON WHO DO HIM ABSOLUTELY NO GOOD." Ann Landers

"AN EFFORT MADE FOR THE HAPPINESS OF OTHERS LIFTS ABOVE OURSELVES." Lydia M. Child

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 29 January 2012

2012-01-29T16:30:57Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well this last Sunday (can you believe it already) in January. I am looking out my window this morning at a cloudy sky, but not dark and stormy. It was sunny when I was out early this morning. Still not really winter here in Northern Virginia - we had a small storm this past week, but it amounted to nothing. Not sure what's happening where you are, but I hope it's what you want or expect this time of year.

My week was really good so I hope yours was as well.   I finally got to apply for a job I have been wanting for a long time. Last year I actually wrote it out and even created a plan of action for what I would want to do if I got the job.   So I'm finally excited that it was advertised and I got to apply. It will be a few weeks before I know anything, but it feels right. I'm stepping back into the world of supervisory/management work and that's a little scary for me although I have changed and grown so much since I last did it that I'm sure I'll be better. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

I picked up a new client in my other business so it was sort of busy this week trying to get everything done for a new client.   I only took on the new client because I know I will be losing two clients this year.   I have decided I have a limit of how many clients I can handle at once and I'm really trying to stick to it. I realized I was a bit overwhelmed with too many clients, but it was a lesson I had to learn.   I wanted time for me and my friends so with too many clients I was not there for myself and others.   Have you been able to figure out how to make some time for yourself? A little balance never hurt anyone!!

Last night I finished this wonderful book: An Invisible Thread by Laura Schroff and Alex Tresniowski. It's the true story of an 11-year-old panhandler, a busy sales executive, and an unlikely meeting with destiny.   I could relate to many aspects of the book and realize why it's so important to give back. I'm not sure we ever understand how we impact others. The book is not very thick, but really touched me.   I'm sure those of you with readers don't care how thick it is (LOL)! I hope you get a chance to read it.    Have any recommendations?

I met with some friends yesterday that I have not seen in a while. We got caught up on all the news about family and friends. It was a nice way to spend a Saturday afternoon. I did not expect to be there as long as I was, but it was nice.   The sad part was when we discussed a friend that they have known forever and a day. She may be the victim of verbal (they do not think physical) abuse. It was so hard to hear why my friends have come to the conclusion and I can see why they think this way. We discussed ways to be there for her whether it be listening without judgment or advising if she asks for it. As we all know until someone hits their breaking point there is not much others can do, but be there.   It was just so sad to hear the story as this is a much older friend and it might be her son and daughter-in-law that are the culprits.   This whole discussion made me so sad and in some ways angry. They asked if I regretted asking about her and I said no because having the discussion may have given them so ideas on how to help her. Any ideas?

Heading out to lunch with a friend and her aunts that I have not seen since we traveled to Ireland together several years ago. It will be nice to see them and enjoy some laughs today.   I hope you have some fun today.

Did you see last week the pre-game shows of both games? I laughed so hard at the segments with the e-trade babies. They were hysterical. I can't wait for Superbowl Sunday as I love all the hype and pre-game shows.   I definitely look forward to the commercials. Of course, now I have to wait months before I see the Fox pre-game show with Howie and Terry.

I have got to get moving here. I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar Events (Sorry I missed last week):

23 January - Chinese New Year and National Pie Day
25 January - Opposite Day
28 January - National Kazoo Day
29 January - National Puzzle Day
31 January - Backward Day
2 February - Groundhog Day
4 February - Thank a Mailman Day

The following is from Power Thought Cards by Louise L. Hay

I TRUST MY INNER WISDOM
AS I GO ABOUT MY DAILY AFFAIRS,
I LISTEN TO OWN GUIDANCE.
MY INTUITION IS ALWAYS ON MY SIDE.
I TRUST IT TO BE THERE AT ALL TIMES.
I AM SAFE.

Referrals are always welcome.

Thought for a Sunday - 22 January 2012

2012-01-22T21:30:14Z

Hi Everyone.   Hope this finds you well and you had a good week.   I'm looking out my window at a gloomy wintry sky.   We had a little bit of icy weather yesterday and we might get some more tonight.   We had nothing compared to some other parts of the country so I hope where you are you can be safe and warm.

It was a slow week for me in most areas of my life. Not necessarily a bad thing as this time of year I feel like I need to hibernate a bit more.    I just want to come home after work and chill. I did get to play Bunco with the ladies which is always fun. A couple of hours of dice and socializing never hurt anyone. The cost is minimal and the food is always good.

I have been busy working on the tax papers for my other business. Lots of review of papers and spreadsheets, but all-in-all I am almost done... YEAH!!! I like to be busy, but sometimes the details of running a business are tedious.   In many ways I would not change it, but sometimes I wish I could twitch my nose and it would all be done. Do you wish you could twitch your nose to get something done?

I did something unexpected this past week. I was off handling some business and decided to check out some luxury apartments I was reading about last week.    When I went I realized there was a neighborhood that popped up I had not even noticed.   I went in and explained why I was there and was immediately made comfortable in the lounge by the concierge while he got an office person.   I was taken on a tour of a couple of layouts - furnished and unfurnished.   She answered all of my questions and really had me thinking - this is the type of place I could live in when I retire from my day job.   It was originally built to be condos so the structure and extra noise controls were put in place. It's the lock and leave lifestyle I have talked about over the past couple of years.   After we sell the house we currently live in my best friend and I have talked about never owning again.    It has gotten my curiosity up to see other types of complexes.   What about you? Thinking about what's next?

It was a morning for me as I got a massage.   Ninety minutes of relaxation and having my my achy bones and joints manipulated is a wonderful thing. I then went for a fabulous steak and baked potato lunch.   Sometimes I crave steak. I don't eat it often, but when I say I want a steak I know I have to eat one.    Have you done something for yourself lately?

I had a meeting the other day at my favorite coffee shop. It's family owned and they have a wonderful place where you can tell most of the customers are regulars and they all know each other.   I was talking to the daughter of the owner and she was saying how hard the business is and although she does not want to disappoint her parents that she will not take it over. She wants to work in a regular office with regular hours and have a life. She loves the people, but not the actual business. She does not want to deal with finding a manager because she does not trust a lot of people and they have been ripped off in the past. I thought how disappointed the customers will be at some point, but at least for now her parents are still working there and the family all still help out. I immediately thought of a friend that would probably thrive in this shop with her baking and cooking talents. It's too far of a commute for her, but I could picture this as clear as day. Have you been able to picture something so clearly that you wish it could happen?   That's how I felt.

I have been doing some thinking about family dynamics. I have friends that have divorced or separated with children. How do you handle the special issues or events that come up?   Perhaps I'm naive, but to me, if a child is the focus the adults should be mature, considerate and responsible enough to put differences aside.   I know that does not happen in many cases, but it took two to create this blessing of a child.   I know someone who's family lives in another country and she has not seen them in over three years because her ex-husband will not let her take her child out of the country. She wants to see her father as he is in poor health and will return here because she has a job and wants to create a good life for her and her son. Her ex told her he would bring her to court if she even talks about going to visit family.    Since she does not make lots of money she is worried about lawyers and fees.   She just told me today that someone brought her dad a computer with Skype and they got to see each other online the other day. I just can't understand the vindictiveness of some people.

On that note, I will get going. I'm watching the Patriots/Baltimore game and you know who I'm cheering for. GO PATS!!! I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Two pieces of writing provided today by Nic Askew

FADE INTO TIME

When all is said.
And done.

And my ashes
return
to dust.

The footsteps I
leave behind me
will fade into time.

They just will.

So might I make
the most of
these short days.

Might now be
my time to
live as only I can.

NOT KNOWING YOU

I have no idea who you are.

I know what it is that you do,
and where it is that you go.

But I have no idea of how you
face the perpetual challenge
that each day brings.

Or of what it is that
hurts your heart.

Or gives your very soul
cause to wake.

And in not knowing you,
there is a part of me
that will lie
forever asleep.

Of this I am certain.

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 15 January 2012

2012-01-15T21:08:44Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well on this chilly Sunday.   In looking out my window I see a clear sky. It was quite chilly the past few days and the winds were cold.   We still have not had any snow or bad weather - not sure that's a good thing as we need some snow for the water it provides in the spring.   I'm not saying we need a blizzard, but then again one a winter is not a bad thing.

My week was pretty good.   I can't believe I'm off from my day job for four days and I did not make any plans to leave town. That's a miracle in itself, but I knew with my other business I had a lot of year-end paperwork to get completed. I'm happy to say it's 95% completed.   How about you? Are you cleaning up from 2011 and getting organized for 2012? I make a valiant effort every year - some years work out better than others.

Last week I forgot to mention that when I was at the mall with my friends, this spontaneous moment happened that I still am blown away by.   We were all hugging good bye and this friendly middle aged woman who works for one of the restaurants in the food court walked up to us with a huge smile on her face. She said it was wonderful to see us being so happy and showing it. She said something about needing a hug and my best friend (who never in the almost 30 years that I've known her) reached out and gave this woman a hug. It made the woman's day by the look on her face and I was shocked. I said to my friend what made you do that and she said I don't know - she needed a hug and it just happened. Our other friends said - did you know that woman and we said no. I thought it was a beautiful thing and just being there in that moment made all of our day. I am grateful that it happened. I thought of this story today as I inputting the calendar entries for the week. Have you ever done anything spontaneous like this?   I know sometimes I felt like I wanted to, but was afraid of the other person's reaction. What about you?

I heard from a friend this week that I have not spoken to in a while. She let me know she reads the blog and keeps up with what's happening in my life.   It was so good to hear from her.   Since her office is now closer to my day job, I'm hoping we can catch up in person.

Today I went with my best friend to Charles Town, WV to do a little gambling. It's only about an hour away and it's been a very long time since we've made the trek. It was a gorgeous drive.   I lost - but I only play with what I can afford to lose. The casino is always an interesting place to watch people.   I walked the casino floor a few times just checking out the people. The crowd started picking up as we were leaving. What I can't stand is that they do not enforce the no smoking rules so there are smokers in the non-smoking section and ashtrays abound for them to use.   I also will never understand why they make the non-smokers walk through the smoking section to get to the non-smoking section.   I will never lecture any one about smoking as I do feel it's an individual decision. I never deny the fact that I smoked for a very long time, but I also gave it up a long time ago. As the years go by I become more and more sensitive to the smoke - almost like an allergic reaction. I could not wait to get out of there into the fresh air of the parking garage.   I still have a headache and came home to immediately change my top so I would not have to smell it.   I am going to put something in Trip Advisor as I use this website all of the time for checking on things.

I don't know how many of you have felt adventurous and tried acupuncture, but as many of you know I'm a huge fan. Whether I'm having treatments for carpel tunnel, shoulder stiffness or boosting my immune system, I feel the treatments work to help alleviate the pain or loosen up stiffness.    Virginia whom I have used for a while now is slowly building her practice out of her home. She also does some home visits for those that are less mobile.   We always talk first about the week just past or what's happening as it's a view of the whole picture not just my wrist hurts.   She is in the process of updating her website, but if you are interested, please see the website. You can always let her know I sent you her way - as I get nothing out of it except to help a wonderful person grow her business.
Virginia Bodywork Acupuncture

I was busy yesterday watching football - yes I love football - especially when the Patriots win!! I am a Denver fan, but had to go with the home team. I like Tim Tebow though and when I was Denver last, they seemed to adore him. I don't understand and never will why the press made a huge deal about his taking a knee before and after a game.   That's his choice and he's not asking or forcing any one else to do it. I think it's wonderful that he is comfortable enough to acknowledge his spirituality. I do not think it was necessary for the press or the comics to make fun of him.    The press could have kept the cameras off of Tim Tebow while he takes a knee if it so offensive to everyone. Any way, that's enough of my soapbox for now.

Well I feel the need for a nap coming on. I guess I'll snooze a little during the Giants/Green Bay game.   I hope you have a wonderful week.   Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Forgot last week to include Calendar information:

13 January - Make Your Dreams Come True
14 January - National Dress Up Your Pet Day
16 January - Martin Luther King Day
19 January - National Popcorn Day
20 January - National Buttercrunch Day
21 January - National Hugging Day

10 THOUGHTS ON WHOLE LIVING From Whole Living Magazine, January/February 2012

1. NOURISH YOUR MIND AS CAREFULLY AS YOU NOURISH YOUR BODY.
2. BRISK, CRISP, INVIGORATING - REMEMBER ALL THE POSITIVE SIDES OF WINTER.
3. FINDING BALANCE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRES ALL YOUR SENSES.
4. IF YOU FEEL THE NEED TO BE CRITICAL, BE SURE THE URGE IS COMING FROM A PLACE OF KINDNESS.
5. WHEN YOU BREAK A SMALL BAD HABIT, YOU TEACH YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN CHANGE ANYTHING.
6. PROSPERITY BEGINS WITH THE ASSUMPTION THAT THERE'S MORE THAN ENOUGH FOR EVERYONE.
7. WILLPOWER IS SOMETIMES A BIOLOGICAL ISSUE, NOT A MORAL ONE. DON'T JUDGE YOURSELF HARSHLY.
8. THE BEST WORK ENVIRONMENTS FOSTER PERSONAL CONNECTIONS AS WELL AS PRODUCTIVITY.
9. SPEAK YOUR MIND. UNMET NEEDS CREATE RESENTMENT WHEN THEY GO UNEXPRESSED.
10. THE NEW YEAR ISN'T A DO-OVER; IT'S AN OPPORTUNITY TO TAKE YOUR NEXT BIG STEP.

Referrals are always welcome!

Thought for a Sunday - 8 January 2012

2012-01-08T16:52:48Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well and the first week of 2012 went well for you.   Amazing that the holidays are over and I actually worked most of the week. In some ways it felt good to get back into the routine and in other ways I felt a bit stifled.   I pondered over using the word stifled as I'm not generally a creative person and that's what I think of when I hear stifled. Yet, it definitely describes the feeling. I'm looking out my window this morning at a sort of gray/blue sky with a bit of a breeze. We are still experiencing an unusually mild winter...worried it will all kick in at the same time.

My week started off wonderfully with a visit to my friend who just became a grandmother. Her daughter and new grandson were visiting. I got to just sit and hold this beautiful sleeping child in my arms for an hour. It was a wonderful while to spend a little time.   I chatted with the family the whole time and petted the dog with my other hand. It was so funny because the dog was so excited to see me and then made sure she stayed close so I could pet her.    As I usually say - babies and animals love to have me around.

Has life settled down for you this past week?   The decorations are away and the stores are loaded with Valentines decorations. Of course, lots of good clearance sales to help spend those gift certificates.   I went to the mall yesterday for the first time in a very long time. I just don't enjoy shopping the way I did in the past. Many moons ago I spent all Saturday in downtown Boston with my friend Donna. We would shop, stop for lunch, continue shopping and then go our separate ways to the subway.

I went to the mall yesterday to meet an old friend and her daughter for lunch. I have not seen them in about seven years and it was wonderful. We just met at the food court, but wow it was good to catch up. I met a wonderfully mature 13 (almost 14) year old young women where a young girl used to be. She was engaging and interesting to talk to as her perspective of things are different. She spent much of the last seven years living overseas with her mom so listening her take on settling back in the area was interesting. She has a good sense of humor and seems to have a lot of confidence (love to see that). I'm glad I'll have the opportunity to see more of them in the future. How about you - connected with anyone lately?

I was out early yesterday morning and the color of sky was so gorgeous that I almost stopped the car to look at it.   I was driving east so it was in my view for a little bit. I kept thinking even an artist could not capture the colors I am seeing and definitely not the feeling. When I got to my location, I closed my eyes for a minute and thanked God for what I had just seen. Even now, I can picture it in my mind's eye and it brings a sense of peace over me. Have you experienced anything like this?

All else is well in my world today and I do hope it's well in your world as well. I'm going to stop here today as I have a bunch of laundry and paperwork to catch up on with my other business. I hope you have a wonderful week. Chat soon. Take care. Marie

The following was written by Nic Askew who has a website titled Soul Biographies.   He prepares wonderful short films about real people. They touch the soul in so many ways. He also writes words or poetry to go with the films. He actually does everything for the film except speak or be the center of attention. This was published this past week and it really touched me. Check out his website if you have a few minutes. website for Soul Biographies

NOT KNOWING YOU

Thought for a Sunday - 1 January 2012

2012-01-01T18:07:31Z

HAPPY NEW YEAR Everyone!!!! I hope you are well this first day of the new year. I even remembered to put 2012 above.   I'm looking out my window this morning at a clear blue sky. Little breezy, but I have the window in this room open to get some fresh air.    It's such a gorgeous day that we have already tackled taking all the outside decorations down before the cold comes tomorrow.

I do hope you took the opportunity over the holiday season to sit back and reflect a little.   I find many people do a bit of reflection before preparing resolutions for the new year.   I do not necessarily make resolutions, but I do think about ways to improve myself.    Since I have dropped out of the Y I am hoping to take advantage of the gym in my office building after work. My thought is I can just head home and not worry about public showers.   When I asked my nephew about joining the gym he said I don't like to go alone and I thought - - bingo neither do I - - I think workout buddies are helpful.

Over the holidays I tried to find ways to express gratitude - whether it's an extra thank you to someone providing assistance or giving an extra tip to a server.    Even something as simple as a nod or smile do wonders to others.    Did someone express their gratitude to you or you to someone else?    I hope you felt good.

When I was visiting my family, my oldest nephew said something that threw me for a loop, but at the same time, made me take a little stock. I must have been commenting on something when he said, "why should we change our behavior or ways when you are here only visiting?" I remember I took a breath and said, I'm not asking you to change your behavior, but I am asking why you do something or behave in a certain way. I am not passing judgment and if you think I am then I apologize.   I think I surprised him by saying that.   Yet, I have been thinking about that conversation ever since.    I question whether or not I am being judgmental without intending to be.   I know I can not tolerate bad behavior and will speak up about that, but perhaps that's just my opinion of the behavior.   See what I mean, I'm in a quandry. What's your opinion?

I did not get to see everyone while I was in Boston, but there is only so much time. I hope to catch up via phone or at least see people on my next visit.

Well I won't keep you today as I'm sure everyone has things to do with the start of the new year. I know I have to start my year end book keeping projects for both companies (not always my favorite thing to do).

I hope you have a great week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Calendar events for the week (busy week):

1 January - New Years Day
3 January - Festival of Sleep
4 January - Trivia Day
5 January - National Bird Day
6 January - Cuddle Up Day

"NOTHING IS WORTH MORE THAN THIS DAY." Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

"IT IS SO HARD FOR US LITTLE HUMAN BEINGS TO ACCEPT THIS DEAL THAT WE GET. IT'S REALLY CRAZY, ISN'T IT? WE GET TO LIVE, THEN WE HAVE TO DIE. WHAT WE PUT INTO EVERY MOMENT IS ALL WE HAVE..." Gilda Radner

"WRITE IT ON YOUR HEART THAT EVERY DAY IS THE BEST DAY IN THE YEAR." Ralph Waldo Emerson

Referrals are always appreciated!

Thought for a Sunday (Only it's Tuesday) - 27 December 2011

2011-12-27T16:43:53Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well. I do hope that everyone had a wonderful holiday (whatever you may celebrate). I am not looking out a window this morning, but I am sitting in my sister's kitchen while the kids watch some sort of zombie movie.   I am a little late this week as I was at my parents for a few days and they only have dial up (I just could not handle that).

I celebrate Christmas and it was very merry indeed. I got to see wonderful old friends and spend lots of time with family.    We had happiness and a bit of sadness at the same time over the holidays. I spent Christmas eve with my friends of over 30 years as I normally do, but we also realized its the last Christmas in the house as their father just sold it. He has owned it for almost 48 years, but it is now much too big for him to be rattling around in by himself so he bought a small place across from one of the daughters. He'll be close to some of the grandchildren as well.   I was thinking about my deceased friend Barbara and how she loved Christmas as her husband and daughter were there.   How were your feelings and emotions over the holiday? What did you do with them?

I got home in time for Midnight Mass with my sister, oldest nephew and his girlfriend. This was the first time I have attended mass since the church changed the prayers.   Thank goodness they have a cheat sheet as I was a little lost.   I joked around and said the reason the church has a choir is because they are the only people that can sing the hymns and sound decent. I told my sister the church needed to lighten up a bit and be more swinging like some of the Baptist churches. I remember when the church experimented with folk masses for the young people and they were such fun.   As I mentioned last week I was feeling a little sentimental this time of year and sure enough in church I felt myself tear up three times.   Not sure if it was the ambiance or the sermon, but I did feel a little weepy.   At one point in the mass, they actually shut out the lights and only have candles burning, they then sing Silent Night. It is so beautiful to see and hear.   I have a lot to be grateful for and I made sure to express it.    What about your spirituality?   Did you feel it? Explore it? Share it?

The kids received way too many gifts, but that's normal for most of us. I think they enjoyed everything they received. My oldest nephew woke up Christmas morning with the stomach flu so it was not the greatest day for him. He is much better today.   So far, knock on wood, the rest of us have not received that gift from him (LOL).

I have to say I had some fun having my niece open the Uggs I got her on her birthday. I left the present on the kitchen table as she prepared for school.   She opened it and was thrilled beyond belief.   She immediately wore them to school and so far she is taking care of them more than I expected.   She waited three years for those boots and I think it was worth it. I just could not see the expense before now.

Spent some time with my parents and see them slowing down a bit more. My father decided to join a gym and he is going almost every day. I'm so proud of him to decide to work out at 78 years old. We started having a discussion today of the future and he decided that he would sit down with me and the attorney in the spring to be sure all wishes are recorded and in order.   Neither my mom or sister will have the discussion so I told him as an HR person I am used to having some of the discussions.    I let him know that I would try to keep them both in their house as long as possible so we need to discuss perhaps some renovations to bathrooms and such to accommodate future needs. He was quite happy to know that I want to work with them on these items.

My dad was happy to have someone to go out to breakfast with as my mom is an oatmeal in the morning type person. He likes to go out for a big breakfast so at least once in my visit I'll head out with him.   We went to Dave's Diner this morning in Middleborough. Great Place, nice staff and good comfort food. I think I had the biggest omelet I have had in a long time and a grilled english muffin. There is nothing like a grilled english muffin. I think this is a New England type thing as you don't find them in too many other places.

It's so nice not to think about work this week. I know it will be there when I return, but for now...relax, sleep in (yes I do that here), play games, and in general have some fun. When I had back I am scheduled for a massage before I head back to work - what a great frame of mind I'll be in for the 3rd of January.

I better get a move on here - the kids are out riding scooters in the chilly air and I want to watch them a bit and play with Buddy the dog.    Take care of yourself - we all need to.   Enjoy your week. Chat soon. Marie

"I am thankful to all those who said NO to me. It's because of them I did it myself." - Albert Einstein

"You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you." - James Allen

"When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It's to enjoy each step along the way." - Wayne Dyer

Referrals are always welcome!

Thought for a Sunday - 18 December 2011

2011-12-18T21:22:10Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well this chilly Sunday (at least in Northern Virginia). I'm a bit later today as I had an unexpectedly busy day. I am looking out my window at the waning sun and a cloudy sky with blue patches. The wind was quite chilly this weekend and yesterday was blowing quite a bit. Have you finished your holiday shopping? Have you started?   This is the last week before the big days.   HO HO HO!!!

I was having my usual breakfast and reading the paper when I heard someone say, isn't that Marie Nagle? I popped my head up and it was a woman I had not seen in several years with her family. I worked with her years ago and her spouse was my old mailman. Small world of course.    I got home from picking up a few things and then a friend called as she was heading to her new house (down the street from me) so I tagged along. We went from room-to-room measuring and scoping out work that needs to be done as well as where her items will fit.   I then went to take care of some business and have lunch with a friend. We are in this casual deli and as I go to get my drink I hear, isn't that Marie Nagle? I look up and almost walked into an old boss.   He looks exactly the same!!   He had finished his tennis game and was having lunch with friends.   He said he could not believe I was still doing HR work and we just laughed. Not sure what he thought I would be doing (of course when I worked with him I was just starting my career), but as long as it's fun I'll keep at it. Have people suddenly appeared again in your life?

In some ways I really must not have changed over the years as the other day I was in another building with my back to the hallway and all of a sudden I hear is that Marie Nagle and her white hair?   It was someone I helped hire several years ago and at one time was her supervisor.   I thought at the time - wow I look the same from the back!!   What do you think - do you still look the same?

I am done with my shopping (thank goodness). The stores opened early this morning and I only needed a few toiletry items.   I took the opportunity this morning to get my car washed as I realized time has flown by since the last wash.    Picked up the last of the gift cards needed for an office contest tomorrow - we have a little decorating contest going on and we have a few competitive people in the office so we have some fun with it. Some people are so creative. We even have judges from another part of the office. I will be creating the certificates this afternoon or tomorrow.   I believe if you have to work - you have to have some fun.

We had a fun holiday party at my day job for a large group of people.   The managers and supervisors formed teams and had to compete against each other in a game of Cranium.   It was quite comical and done with humor. They were really good sports. The HR team won. They also had a game similar to Where's Waldo, but with a picture of the big chief in three different areas.   It was close as the top two teams tied. The room we used was too small so it was awfully warm - so lessons learned for next year - find a larger space.   The HR staff will have their holiday lunch in January after the rush is over and we are thinking of having a re-gifting white elephant exchange. You bring something that you received either this year or last that you would like to re-gift. Only rule is: can't be used!! Does your office do anything fun?

I don't know about you, but this time of the year I feel my emotions very near the surface. I see a movie, TV show, commercial or hear a story and I feel tears forming.   I'm not sure if it's the sentiment of the season or that hormones rage at this time of year for me. All I know is I feel more sentimental and tender at this time of year.

I am excited about seeing my family and friends over the next couple of weeks as I go home to Massachusetts. Although many times I say Boston, my family moved out of Boston a few years back.   I call Massachusetts home because my family and friends still live there although I know that my home is Virginia (almost 30 years). I think home to me is where my family is living. Although I'm not sure it would be the same if they moved to another state.   Weird how the mind works. I have actually lived in Virginia longer than I lived in Massachusetts. I root for all my home teams here and Massachusetts.   Have you resettled somewhere? Are you torn between two places?   How do you handle it?

I hope you enjoy this coming week and try to stay relatively stress free. I know it's not easy because even if you are not stressed we usually run into those that are rushing, impatient, swirling, etc.   I was on the phone with someone the other day that was extremely emotional and said take a couple of deep breaths with me. We did it a couple of times together and all of a sudden she said I feel better.   Have you ever done that with someone? It helps both you and the other person tremendously.

I have several people in my thoughts and prayers today - you know who you are. You know how to find me if you need an ear or a shoulder.

The next two weeks by the calendar:
     20 December - Hanukkah Begins at sundown
     22 December - First Day of Winter (BRRR)
     24 December - Christmas Eve
     25 December - Christmas Day
     26 December - Kwanzaa Begins
     26 December - Boxing Day (Canada)
     31 December - New Year's Eve

I had no great revelations to pass on today. I am like every one else and have my good days and bad days.   I learn something new every day either about myself or others.    I am off to get some errands done. I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

The below poem was composed by: Judy Sorum Brown

REST
BETWEEN OUR WORDS
THERE IS A REST,
A SPACE LIKE
THAT BETWEEN
TWO NOTES,
WHERE WHAT
WAS SOUNDED LAST
STILL HANGS
SUSPENDED
IN THE SPIRIT AIR,
AND THAT
WHICH SOON
WILL SOUND
IS YET UNKNOWN,
A SIMPLE POSSIBILITY.

References are always welcome!

Thought for a Sunday - 11 December 2011

2011-12-11T17:00:27Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well. I'm looking out my window this morning at a clear blue sky. It was very chilly this morning when I left the house, yet it was so refreshing. I love seeing the lawns covered in frost especially at this time of year.

Have you started feeling pressures of the holidays yet?   I have talked to many people that seem to be stressed out about getting things done - perhaps overdone.   What I have noticed is that women seem to be more stressed than men at this time of year.   Do you think we women put too much pressure on ourselves to make everything perfect - whether it be gifts, parties, baking, etc.? I am definitely guilty of having been that way in the past. I have a couple of events this week and was asked to bring something to the work party - I said no problem I'll bring a side dish and already know what I want to pick up pre-made at the grocery store.   Another party I said sure I'll bring cookies as long as you know I won't be making them - one reason is that I do not like to bake.   I am all for making it easier on myself and helping the economy along.    My goal is to enjoy the time I spend at the parties/events with the people that are there and not worry about the food.    What about you? Any feedback?

From a different perspective, I'm not sure I understand why parents feel they must give everything a kid wants as holiday gifts. I understand trying to give kids things, but sometimes economically it's just not possible. Yet parents are willing to go into debt to pick up an enormous amounts of gifts instead of focusing on the one or two things.    As an Aunt I try to get my kids at least one thing they want. I usually ask them for a list of their top three and let them know that they may get one of them. When I hear I want, want, want constantly from anyone I usually ask why they think they deserve it and let them know they need to earn it.   That usually keeps them quiet for a while. I love to give gifts and the look of surprise or happiness on the recipients faces. And yet at the same time, I would not want anyone to just expect me to give them something. Does that sound selfish? Of course the best gift I have found is just being there for people. When you are present in the moment with them listening and giving your full attention it's amazing.    Any thoughts?

I am almost done with a great book: Kitchen Table Wisdom by Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D. I am reading the 10th Anniversary Edition.    The book contains stories that heal.    She blends the viewpoints of a physician and patient.   It is wonderful!!!!   Read anything good lately?

Well I dropped out of the Y this past week. I thought it was expensive monthly, but I was willing to bite the bullet. What put it over the top was a letter that in December I would be charged a new annual fee.   That just did it. One reason I was mad is that the letter was dated a month before I received it and they were going to take it out the next week. Second, I have this thing against paying annual fees when I pay monthly fees.   So I popped in the other afternoon and pulled my membership. I explained why and advised they should not charge my card for the annual fee or there would be bigger issues to pay. They processed an adjustment right there and then as they fee was coming out the next day. They sort of indicated that they had heard from other customers as well. I told them I was not blaming them, but corporately not sure it was a good decision. I can find plenty of places a bit less expensive and without annual fees. I also explained it's the same reason I will drop a credit card company or bank.   Oh well, now to find a new place to workout. I did walk yesterday morning and it was nice to enjoy the chill in the air.

I hope you get a chance to walk or drive through your neighborhood to enjoy the holiday lights.   There is one house near me that has the lights on dazzle I think - the flashing, blinking, etc. I joked that I could not look at them too long.   Most of the displays are very fun and brings a big smile to my face.

Well I better get moving.   I am going to an open house this afternoon where the hosts collect toys for Toys for Tots and food for the local food bank.   I have my deliverables almost ready. I just love this idea, I think the hosts indicated it was their 15th event and it seems to grow every year.    It's a wonderful afternoon seeing colleagues and people that I just don't get to see too often.

This week on the calendar:

13 December: National Cocoa Day

I hope you have a good week. Take some time to breathe a little - it does help. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU HAVE, AND IT MAY NEVER BE ENOUGH; GIVE THE WORLD THE BEST YOU'VE GOT ANYWAY." Mother Teresa

"LEARN TO LET GO. THAT IS THE KEY TO HAPPINESS." Buddha

"I OPEN NEW DOORS TO LIFE. I REJOICE IN WHAT I HAVE AND I KNOW THAT FRESH NEW EXPERIENCES ARE ALWAYS AHEAD. I GREET THE NEW WITH OPEN ARMS. I TRUST LIFE TO BE WONDERFUL." Louise Hay

Thought for a Sunday - 4 December 2011

2011-12-04T18:21:22Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well and you had a good week.   Out my window today is a pretty blue sky with wispy clouds and a little breeze. It was chilly this morning when I went out for normal Sunday morning breakfast.

Have you started or finished your holiday shopping yet? I think I'm basically done except to pick up a few gift cards.   I have to admit the only reason I'm done is I have the bestest (yes bestest) friend in the whole world - Patti.   She runs all kinds of errands for me from heading to the bank to wrapping the gifts.   She offers to help me all the time so as long as I let her know what I'm looking for and sizes - she will go on the hunt. She'll even go stand in line at the post office.    She helps me in more ways than I can even say.   She helps other people when they need assistance as well - she is just a great person.   All I can say is Thank You my friend for being there and keeping me in line.   I hope you have someone in your life that can help you out when needed. Or, are you that person for someone else?

It is truly a wonderful feeling to be there for someone else.   Sometimes it blows my mind when someone I know that I have offered and offered to be a friend or to assist actually reaches out. It could be as simple as being as ear for the person or a sounding board, but the feeling I get inside is amazing.   I feel honored and humbled when someone feels a close enough connection to reach out. How do you feel?

I went to my 2nd group session of those considering or have already had weight loss surgery. I have not committed to anything yet, but I find the group a great place to learn about expectations, changes to lifestyles, etc.   There were some new people this time so it was good to hear a little bit from them.   I think the meeting needs to have more of facilitator at the meeting so it's not hijacked by one person as seems to happen. Although I learn from the person I would like to hear from others as well. Again, I have not committed, but its something I am continually learning about.    How much learning is too much, I'm not sure yet, but I'll know when it feels right to make a decision either way.

Question for you - when you look in the mirror what do you see?   My coach asked me that question and my response was - I try to avoid mirrors if at all possible. I look in the morning to do my hair and quickly any time I am in a ladies room, but I truly don't groom the way some other people do.   Do I see what others see when I look at me? I joked that I don't ask them what they see. It does give me pause to ask myself the question.   This is not an easy question for some including me. We can work on it together.

I am reading a really good book that hopefully I will finish up this week and provide some detail next week.   Are you reading anything interesting?

I received a new calendar for next year and it has some of the silly stuff listed for the week. I think I'll include it in my week blogs for grins and giggles.   The calendar has December as well so let's get started celebrating the following:

4 December - Santa's List Day
5 December - Walt Disney's Birthday
6 December - Mitten Tree Day
7 December - National Cotton Candy Day

I better get moving here - have some things to get done this afternoon. I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"WHEN I AM...COMPLETELY MYSELF, ENTIRELY ALONE...OR DURING THE NIGHT WHEN I CAN NOT SLEEP, IT IS ON SUCH OCCASIONS THAT MY IDEAS FLOW BEST AND MOST ABUNDANTLY. WHEN AND HOW THESE COME I KNOW NOT, NOR CAN I FORCE THEM." Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart.

"THE IDEALS THAT HAVE LIGHTED MY WAY AND, TIME AFTER TIME, HAVE GIVEN ME NEW COURAGE TO FACE LIFE CHEERFULLY HAVE BEEN KINDNESS, BEAUTY AND TRUTH." Albert Einstein

Thought for a Sunday - 27 November 2011

2011-11-27T17:17:57Z

Hi Everyone!! Hope you are well this Sunday and had a good week. I'm looking out my window this morning at mostly bare trees and a light blue sky - I see clouds out there as well. I can see the sun bouncing off the hanging lights from next door - the lights hang up all year, but today the sun is catching them just right. Did you survive Black Friday? I am not a Black Friday person and I usually work to give others the opportunity to go away.

I do hope you enjoyed Thanksgiving with people you wanted to be with. I know it's difficult at this time of the year to be with family sometimes, but to be with friends and neighbors that care can be just as meaningful. I made a turkey breast as there were only three of us, but not to brag - it was the best turkey I have ever made. For the first time I tried brining the night before and I think it really helped the juiciness. I had to have my favorite mashed butternut squash. The overall entire meal was wonderful and sharing it with friends was wonderful. No worries about travel or stress over trying to be sure everyone gets along.   I expressed my gratitude to my friends for being in my life.   Did you take the opportunity to express thankfulness or gratitude?

On that train of thought, I want to express my gratitude to all of you who follow my blog. I know there are plenty of other things out there that are much more exciting to read. I am humbled and pleased when I hear from folks that tell me they enjoy it and that they usually get something out of it.   I struggle with the same things as others and I don't mind sharing my struggles and triumphs. I learn from you as much I hope you learn from me.

As many of you know, I praise napping and how I can power nap to feel refreshed. A friend yesterday sent me a great article on napping. Lots of good information and even names some companies that believe in napping....maybe I need to switch jobs (LOL).   The article appeared on a website called: naturallyengineered.com. There is a blog called: everything-you-ever-wanted-to-know-about-napping.   At least I know there are many people that believe in napping as I do.   How do you feel about napping?

I participated in a two-day Multicultural Training seminar this past week. It was fascinating as each speaker spoke about history, norms and society. Each speaker was able to bring to life their stories so that they were understood by all participants. We received the bios on the speakers and I hope to look up each one this week to learn more. We are such a melting pot that it is good to learn about all of the different cultures.

I am an early riser and have always loved dawn - I know most of you are thinking she's crazy. But to me there is something about being up early and seeing the sky light up that is so wondrous and in many ways spiritual.   I feel like I waste the day if I stay in bed in the morning. The colors of the sky in the morning are unbelievable and I sometimes have to stop and just gaze. It starts my whole day off light-hearted. I know sunset is gorgeous as well - especially in Hawaii where everyone stops on the beach and just waits. Since I live on the east coast I'll always appreciate the sunrise.   Do you have a special time of day when you can just stop and take a breath? That's what mornings are for me.

My house is decorated inside and out for Christmas. I love it!!!! It's not as plentiful as in years past, but it is still wonderful to me. My neighbors think we are nuts when we start getting it ready, but it's so much fun.   This year the weather was great for getting everything ready. My roommate decided this year to try a smaller tree, when I got home the other night from work I was shocked and said "no way" is that our Christmas tree - it's too small and reminds me of Charlie Brown. She took it back yesterday and we put up our regular tree - which we'll decorate this afternoon - LOVE IT!!! Now to clean out my closets to dig out the gifts I buy all year long (LOL)!!

I hope you have a good week. Take some time to breathe a little. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"GRATITUDE IS A VACCINE, AN ANTITOXIN, AND AN ANTISEPTIC." John Henry Towett

"GIVE THANKS FOR A LITTLE AND YOU WILL FIND A LOT." The Hause of Nigeria

"WHEN A PERSON DOESN'T HAVE GRATITUDE, SOMETHING IS MISSING IN HIS OR HER HUMANITY. A PERSON CAN ALMOST BE DEFINED BY HIS OR HER ATTITUDE TOWARD GRATITUDE." Elie Wiesel

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 20 November 2011

2011-11-20T18:18:13Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well and you had a good week.   My week went well as I returned from the beach and had to face reality of work again.   I came back balanced and ready to take on the stress of work with a much better perspective. The weather out my window is cloudy and dreary looking.   I did see a bit of sun earlier today, but it appears it might storm later.

The drive back was a bit easier than expected - so perhaps I should come back on Tuesdays vice Mondays from now on. It started out with a backup of traffic almost right away and I thought it's 5:30 am what's happening? I think it was an accident although I saw no remnants by the time I got to the area.   The only other guess was the traffic light malfunctioned.   Only a couple of spots where traffic slowed because of construction. All-in-all a good drive. Hardly saw any troopers on the road - which is a bonus.

I did have a lot happening the couple of days I worked. It was a bit stressful, but since I was in a good relaxed state - most of it rolled off my back.   I did not get to the gym as I would have liked, but I did make to a jazzercize class yesterday and I can tell I worked my butt and arms as they are both a bit sore today. How are your exercise goals coming along?

I got to have dinner with a dear friend on Friday night. We picked a casual local place and sat there for hours just talking and catching up. We did not hold up the table as it was sort of slow (the restaurant has a big takeout following). It was just nice to sit and talk to my friend as we have not seen each other in a while. Have you been in touch with anyone lately?

Another dear friend became a grandma yesterday. She has been so excited and he finally arrived yesterday morning. A nice healthy 9 pound baby boy.   No one knew whether it would be a boy or a girl as the parents wanted it to be a surprise.   Some people need to know the gender way in advance and others can wait for the surprise. I can't wait to see pictures.   I'm sure my friend finished all the blankets she was knitting for the new arrival. What a blessing it is to have a baby in our lives.

Found an interesting website a couple of weeks ago: www. color="black" face="Verdana" size="2">maryjanesfarm.com. It's all about organic living, farming, and products.   I think I read about it in a magazine and had to check it out. Do you have any recommendations?

This week is Thanksgiving and I'm looking forward to doing some cooking. I'm grateful for so many things in my life - especially family and friends. Just a turkey breast this year with a couple of friends.   It will be a nice relaxed afternoon. One of our friends love to experiment with her cooking/baking and she's bringing dessert so it should be interesting. I work the day after as I can't stand the whole Black Friday stuff. Work is usually quiet and this year those of us working have decided to decorate the office for the holidays. Are you a Black Friday fan? Perhaps someone can explain the joy of Black Friday to me.

Time to get going here as I need to finish laundry and grab some lunch.   I hope you have a wonderful week and focus on something/someone to be grateful for? Perhaps even let someone know you are grateful that they are in your life. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"THE ONLY INTEREST IN LIVING COMES FROM BELIEVING IN LIFE, FROM LOVING LIFE AND USING ALL THE POWER OF YOUR INTELLIGENCE TO KNOW IT BETTER." Emile Zola

"FRIENDSHIP WITH ONESELF IS ALL-IMPORTANT BECAUSE WITHOUT IT ONE CANNOT BE FRIENDS WITH ANYONE ELSE IN THE WORLD." Eleanor Roosevelt

Referrals are always welcome.

Thought for a Sunday - 13 November 2011

2011-11-13T23:38:06Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well.   I'm late today as I was out walking the beach this morning and then went to visit some relatives. I'm in Myrtle Beach!! Getting some much needed down time. The weather here has been absolutely gorgeous. Yesterday morning I think they had the temperature wrong as the news kept saying it was 32 degrees and we did have frost on the windshield, but when we got to the beach it was warm. People were in shorts, walking in the water, and fishing.   It was unbelievable. Hope the weather is good where you are.

I have been walking the beach in the mornings and working up a sweat - as I said its warmer than I thought. Yesterday for the first time since I have had a place here (5 years) I actually used the indoor heated pool. It felt wonderful. There was no one else and I swam and did some walking/running movements for about 25 minutes. It was great. Not sure if I'll go again tonight, but you never know. I have to go to restaurants to log on to free wi fi so it depends on what time I leave this one.   My best friend is sitting across from me just reading her books while I try to compose my thoughts. Are you doing anything special to increase your movement?

This past week was a bit crazy at work so it made the trip to the beach that much more enjoyable.   I hate not meeting deadlines even when it's not my fault and I just end up adding more pressure to myself.   Now that I'm here I can say who cares about deadlines, I'll get it completed upon my return.   I don't know why I get crazy with the deadlines knowing I build in extra time because of the people I coordinate with.    Oh well, as I said from the beach everything looks good.   Not sure I could live here year round, but for a few days at a time - it's great. Do you have a place you like to go to relieve the stress?

I went to see some relatives today that I don't see very often. We had a pleasant time telling stories as we talked about everyone else.   My cousin is gearing up to be a grandmother in December and I keep thinking we can't be old enough for that.   Babies are on my brain as my dear friend Diane should be a grandma by tomorrow!! A woman at work is due this week. Babies Babies Babies!! What a joyous time!

My oldest nephew will be 17 next week. Boy does time fly. He's a senior in high school. He's had his moments as all young people do, but I think he'll turn out ok. I asked him last week: "what do you want for your birthday or Xmas that I will try to get you. Give me your top three picks and perhaps you'll get one." He said to me, I don't need much as I'm happy with everything I have. I almost fell over as I know too many people who keep saying "I want, I want." Now I have to think of something special.

I have been reading fun novels for the past week or so. There is a series I am catching up with that involves "the sisterhood" which is a group of women vigilantes. The novels are funny and sometimes I just have to laugh out loud at the antics.   It's simple, fun reading.   What are you reading these days?

I must say I look forward to putting this blog together every week. As I think over the past week and realize the ups and downs, but also that hindsight is 20/20. Just putting a few days between something that happens and then thinking about it again usually changes my perspective.   Of course, being at the beach changes my thought process entirely.

Guess I better get going.   Don't want to bore you too much today. Enjoy your week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"

In a gentle way, you can shake the world." Mohandas Gandhi

"I am thankful to all those who said NO to me. It's because of them I did it myself." Albert Einstein

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” Dr Wayne Dyer

Thought for a Sunday - 6 November 2011

2011-11-06T17:02:14Z

Hi Everyone. Hope you are well and had a good week. Looking out my window this morning at a beautiful blue clear sky and yellow/green leaves on the tree next door. I love the fall colors that appear on the trees.   Considering we have had quite a bit of rain and even a little snow already this year, I'm amazed there are still so many leaves left on trees. Some of the neighborhoods have started the process of vacuuming up all the leaves.

I had a pretty good week - I actually took Wednesday off and went to New York City with a group of ladies from Jazzercise. We went to see Billy Elliott on Broadway.   We had a long day, but a good day. It was fun going with ladies you like to be around. My friend's daughter had never been before so it was fun exploring and walking around for a while.   We did not to see as much as I would have liked to show her, but all-in-all it was a good day.

I only went a little crazy on Thursday. Most of the stress was from my colleagues not using the system correctly.   Don't you just love when you offer training and no one pays attention or participates? This is what happened in my office and since we are at deadline for many of the items the truth comes out. My colleagues are blaming the system when it is really user error. I tried my best to hold my temper and be as patient as possible when I really wanted to slap a few people. Someone actually made up a story saying I advised them to do something that was truly against what I knew and advised everyone else and put it in writing and CC'd my boss. That one incident almost made me lose it on Thursday, but I decided to wait overnight before responding.    Friday morning I professionally crafted a response laying out the facts and setting the record straight.   Although I have not spoken to my boss although another person that received the note praised me for putting together a well written response.   What would you have done?    Would you have been able to hold it together?

I definitely think my trying to do something exercise related whether it be the gym or walking certainly helped me keep a good frame of mind in dealing with the above situation. I did not get to the gym every day last week. Yet on the days I did not I made sure I got some walking in somewhere.    How are you doing?

I finished a wonderful book - From Ashes to Honor by Loree Lough. It was Book 1 of a First Responders Series of those that survived 9/11.   She weaves human characters and brings faith and spirituality to life.   The author provided some discussion questions at the end. I may not have completely liked the way it ended, but I understand why it ended the way it did. Another book I enjoy and pull out for inspiration is: The Bounce Back Book by Karen Salmansohn. It's about finding your footing after a setback. Lots of good advice and guidance.

Now I'm reading a murder mystery. I have several books to get to hopefully over the next few weeks.

Why is it that although we got to sleep an extra hour last night I feel like I could use more? I may have to take a little nap this afternoon although I should not have to with the extra hour of sleep.

My sister is celebrating a birthday this week. She was born on election day and this year her birthday falls on election day (at least here in Virginia it's election day).   I sent her her small gifts and my parents will visit her today to celebrate. HAPPY BIRTHDAY MARION!!

I'm going to sign off now. I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

IF ONLY I KNEW
HOW OFTEN I BLINDLY ACCEPTED
ANOTHER'S BELIEFS,
COPIED SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE,
AND TRIED TO IMITATE
THEIR SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE,
I COULD HAVE FOUND MY OWN
AND MADE THEM REAL.

The above is from a book entitled: If Only I Knew by Lance Wubbels

Referrals are always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 30 October 2011

2011-10-30T16:11:17Z

Hi Everyone. Hope this finds you well and you enjoyed the past week. What a gorgeous blue sky I'm looking at out the window this morning - beautiful color leaves as well.   Hard to believe yesterday it was cold, rainy and snowy.....YES snow in October - AMAZING!! It was a great day for curling up with a blanket and relaxing.

I can't believe that it's almost November.   I was talking this morning to my best friend and she said something about next year. I looked at her and said that is only only two months away and we both started laughing.

Got to catch up with a few people this past week that I have not seen in a while. One was definitely a surprise. Remember the wedding I did not attend...well I was attending a meeting the other day for the first time and I hear some people mention her. My first thought was oh no!! She may be here tonight - what am I going to do? Then I thought there is a reason I chose tonight to attend this meeting so if she does come it was meant to be. When she walked in and saw me she just stopped and I did as well and then she just grabbed me in a bear hug and neither of us let go for a few minutes. This was the first time I had seen her since I wrote my confession a couple of weeks ago about why I did not attend her wedding.    I was practically in tears and all I felt from her was love and understanding. We did not get a chance to chat much until after the meeting and we got a few minutes to talk, listen and hug!! It was wonderful to know I had not lost a friend and that she could be so loving and understanding. I am so grateful she is in my life.

I'm finding myself looking for excuses to get some exercise time in vice looking for excuses to do nothing.   I think that's a good sign for me. I may never feel the endorphin rush that others feel with running, but I feel pretty good if I can get at least 30 minutes a day in of doing something.

I'm off for a day this week to go with the Jazzercise group to New York City. We are taking the bus up in the morning, seeing the play Billy Elliott, hopefully squeeze in a little shopping and then back on the bus for the return trip. I'm sure Thursday at work I'll be like a zombie, but it will be so much fun.   You know I'll get my walking in while in New York!!

I'm catching up on some reading of magazines and a book or two.   I'm sure I'll mention one or two in the next couple of weeks.

I'm going to finish for today.   I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

I SEE CLEARLY (Louise Hay - Power Thought Cards)
I WILLINGLY FORGIVE.
I BREATHE LOVE INTO MY
VISION, AND I SEE WITH
COMPASSION AND UNDERSTANDING.
MY CLEAR INSIGHT
IS REFLECTED IN MY
OUTER SIGHT.

Referrals always appreciated.

Thought for a Sunday - 23 October 2011

2011-10-23T16:24:41Z

Hi Everyone. Hope you are well and enjoyed the past week. It's another beautiful day here this morning - clear blue eyes with hardly a cloud at all. A little chilly, but it's a great fall day. Yesterday was overcast, damp and cold - took a little nap and caught up on all the shows the missed the past week.

I feel good that I was able to work out in some way almost every day this past week. What started out last Sunday as walk with a friend around the lake turned into an hour long hike through the woods. Neither one of us realized that there was not a walkway around the lake. We walked up hills, skirted around mud, were a bit shaky over the loose rocks and even climbed over a fallen tree. It was a beautiful day for the hike, but I wish I had hiking books on vice the walking sneakers I was wearing. I wanted to give up a couple of times, but did not want to go back so I kept going. We had a few laughs throughout our walk about the situation. I found it almost intimidating as I worried about falling and shaky ankles when I had to stop and move to the side because the trail runners (and they were running) were coming down the hill behind us. I was exhausted after the walk, but felt good that I did it.   I did come home and take a little snooze - I think it was too much fresh air (LOL)!!     Have you ever run into a situation where you started out with one idea and then reality set in and it ended with good results?

Work was busy this past week - lots of deadlines.   It's good to be busy and what was great is that I did not feel any undo stress.   Perhaps the exercising is helping in some ways that I had not expected.     What has exercise done for you?

I worked with a client in the past couple of weeks and in doing so, was able to re-look at something that happened in my life. I can now see in hindsight how I should have handled the situation and myself in the process.   I can almost put myself in the client's shoes and go back a few years. I am hoping the client finds better ways to handle the situation sooner than I did, but I have a feeling the client is not ready at this moment.   The client is still caught up in the emotional part of the situation and in some ways can not disengage to look at it with different eyes. Coaching is a choice and I'm not sure the client was completely ready for the experience. I feel the client asked for coaching to please management - to me that's not a good way to begin. I'm doing my best to be there for the client as a coach and ensure the person that I do not report any part of our discussions with management.    I'm keeping my fingers crossed that the client will want to continue, but understand if stops.

My dad turns 78 this week.   I sent him a card as he keeps telling me he does not want anything.   I actually listened to him this year. I'll be sure to call him of course on his special day.   My sister and her family visited yesterday with cake and presents. He is doing better since he got new hearing aids - he still has problems on the phone, but he can watch TV and we do not hear a thing because of the digital aids. Now if only my mom would realize she is losing a bit of her hearing - her TV is getting up there in terms of volume.

I better get moving here need to get some laundry done and head out for a bit of lunch. Of course, I have to finish watching Howie first.   Enjoy your week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

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10 THOUGHTS ON WHOLE LIVING - November 2011 Issue of Whole Living Magazine

1. A meal shared with family and friends sustains you in more ways than one.
2. Gratitude cannot always change circumstances, but it can help you see beyond them.
3. With rejection comes a decision: you can either turn back or find a new way forward.
4. Feeling restless may be a sign that you haven't sat still long enough.
5. Stop seeing life as a problem to be solved and, instead, as a mystery to be enjoyed.
6. Sometimes you have to travel to a new place to rediscover the old you.
7. To make the best use of your intuition, think less and listen more.
8. Give above and beyond what you think will help.
9. Rather than worry about how your body should look, focus on how you want it to feel.
10. Virtuous and delicious aren't mutually exclusive; the most nourishing foods can also be the most delightful.

Thought for a Sunday - 16 October 2011

2011-10-16T17:17:21Z

Hi Everyone!!!! Hope you are doing well today and had a great week.   What a gorgeous day!! I am looking out my window at a clear blue sky and clear air, with a nice breeze. I love having the windows and doors open airing out the house - clearing out the stuffiness or running a/c for months.   It's a glorious fall day.

Well it's been quite a week for me. After last week's blog I received several notes and calls. I shed a few tears in reading the notes. I do have some wonderful people in my life and they all rallied around me. I found out my friend (the bride) read the blog while on a layover on her way to her honeymoon. I truly did not mean for that to happen, I thought she was already gone and would read it on her return. I sometimes forget technology is so easily accessible these days. She empathized with my situation and completely understands and I know I will be hearing from her after her return.   My blog last week was like confession and I feel like a weight was lifted by getting it out there.

The good news is that I have worked at doing some form of movement or exercise (at least 30 minutes) every day for the past 10 days. Most days I walk the track, ride the stationary bike and use the machines. One day - I even got into the pool!! Yes, a friend and I put on suits and went to the pool on Monday morning and we moved the entire time.   It felt really good to be weightless and have no pressure on the joints.   We will do it again, but I'm trying to figure out a time between swim team, classes and my schedule - wow it's proving a little difficult. I'm just happy with myself for doing it.   It will be a little harder this week with some commitments I have, but I'm going to try and squeeze exercise in whenever I can. I keep sneakers and socks in the car, in the office and of course at home, just in case.

I'm working on the nutrition and making better decisions.   I'm not perfect, but trying to get in the veggies and fresh fruit if at all possible.   I was at an office party and was proud of myself for having 1 brownie and 3 potato chips - in the past I know I would have had many more of both, but I was not going to deprive myself by having none.

I found out a friend's mom passed away last night.   My thoughts and prayers are with her and her family at this time.   Her mom is no longer ill or in pain and we are all grateful. I know she is looking down at my friend with love and will keep an eye on her.    It's never easy for those left behind, but hopefully the memories and stories that people will share will keep her moving forward.

There is an intersection near me that almost every weekend and sometimes during the week has people asking for money.   They have the appropriate licenses and such for the county to allow them there. Perhaps it's me, but I just don't want to give them money.   I give to many charities, but I have to check them out first and be sure they are legitimate.   I think it bothers me because its the same people every week - not like a big fundraiser and then it's done.    I even read an article in the paper a few months ago that said no one was sure what they were collecting for was legitimate. With that in mind, I don't understand the County letting the people continue to do this every weekend. Oh well, perhaps I'm too picky.

Well on that note, I better get moving. I have things to get done on this glorious day.   I hope you have a wonderful week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

Two Inspirational thoughts are provided today:

LIFE IS SHORT by Randy Johnson

LIFE IS SHORT AND IT SHOULD BE APPRECIATED.
EACH DAY WE HAVE SHOULD BE CELEBRATED.
LIFE IS SHORT BECAUSE TIME FLIES.
IT'S A FACT THAT IT DOESN'T TAKE LONG FOR THE YEARS TO PASS BY.
BEFORE WE KNOW IT, A WHOLE LIFETIME HAS PASSED.
WE SHOULD MAKE THE MOST OF LIFE BECAUSE TIME GOES BY SO FAST.

MY GUARDIAN ANGEL by Rachel Tornheim

WHENEVER THERE'S SOMETHING UPSETTING OR FRIGHTENING
ECHOING THUNDER, CRACKLING LIGHTENING,
SHADOWS THAT STARTLE AND SPIDERS THAT CRAWL,
PEOPLE WHO MAKE ME FEEL SILLY AND SMALL,
DUTIES I'M NOT SURE I'M READY TO SHOULDER
THAT JUST SEEM TO MULTIPLY AS I GET OLDER,
THE FEAR THAT I'LL FAIL AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION,
OR ANYTHING ELSE FROM WHICH I NEED PROTECTION,
WITH STRONG ARMS AND WISE WORDS, YOU'RE ALWAYS THERE
TO FIGHT OFF THE BAD THINGS THAT THREATEN AND SCARE.
SO BUG, FEARS, AND THUNDER, YOU'D BETTER WATCH OUT,
OR MY GUARDIAN ANGEL WILL KNOCK YOU RIGHT OUT!

REFERRALS ARE ALWAYS APPRECIATED!!

Thought for a Sunday - 9 October 2011

2011-10-09T16:34:56Z

Hi everyone. Hope this finds you well and had a good week.   I am looking out my window this morning at a gorgeous blue sky with some wispy clouds.   It has been a glorious weekend considering the 30 days of rain in September. It is so nice to have the doors and windows open clearing out the stuffy air of the house.

My week was pretty good although it seemed long for some reason.   Of course I was busy crashing at work with three projects in action mode.   At least I stay busy and out of trouble so to speak.   If I'm bored you never know why kind of havoc I could create. What about you?

I actually fit in a couple of workouts this past week and for that I am excited.   I'm using some of the machines I'm familiar with as well as riding the bike and walking the track. Trying to keep my heart rate elevated for at least 20 minutes at a time. I have not made it to the pool yet, but the bathing suit has moved to the car so I think I'm getting closer.   I know I'm a prude, but I can't stand getting dressed in a public changing room. I would much rather have some private space - so thank goodness the restroom stalls are a decent size.   I'm just not a fan of walking into the locker area and seeing naked bodies. You can laugh if you want, but it really makes me uncomfortable. I know for many people it's no big deal and even if there were changing rooms available they would still change in the locker areas.

A friend just sent me an outstanding documentary about 9/11 and the people evacuated by boat. It is only about 11 minutes long, but it is inspiring.   If you have a chance I hope this link works.   I cried a little this morning watching it as it is so touching.

Click here: Moving documentary of 9/11 evacuation by boat shows resilience of cities | SmartPlanet

I have not had much time for reading this past week although I have a ton of books lined up. I'll get there at some point.   Let me know if you are reading something that you think I would be interested in, as eventually I will get caught up.

I was not sure I was going to put this out here as it's so personal. I know that I am nothing if not honest and decided I might as well be up front with it. I had a friend who got married yesterday - I was truly thinking of her all day. I did not attend the wedding. Originally I thought I might be traveling, but that trip was changed quite a while back. I never told her and even last week when I saw her I told her I was traveling.   The real reason I did not attend is that for the first time in my life I let my weight stop me from doing something.   I did not want the hassle of shopping for an outfit and being so disappointed in what I ended up with.   I can't believe I let my weight stop me from being with friends and enjoying a beautiful event. I can't believe I did not see that my friends would not care about any of that and would just be there. I told my coach this the other day and as I spoke the words how true they were and how sad I felt.   I feel terrible that I lied to my friend about the reason for not attending the wedding. I know it will really bother her when she reads it here. Perhaps that's why I finally worked out and put some effort into it and put more effort into eating better.    Well, I put it out here so if you have any comments, please let hear from you.

Well I better get moving here as I have a few things to get done today.   I hope you have a good week. Take care. Chat soon. Marie

"PEOPLE THINK ANGELS FLY BECAUSE THEY HAVE WINGS. ANGELS FLY BECAUSE THEY TAKE THEMSELVES LIGHTLY." Anonymous

"KNOW THAT JOY IS RARER, MORE DIFFICULT, AND MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN SADNESS. ONCE YOU MAKE THIS ALL-IMPORTANT DISCOVERY, YOU MUST EMBRACE JOY AS A MORAL OBLIGATION." Andre Gide

Referrals are always appreciated.